well yes

that changes the scenery as that is something that requires professional help


right, only so much you can do as a partner to provide emotional support under those circumstances


sorry to hear of it Emo - it's quite sad

Truth is good. No problem there. I was just offering an alternative view.

Some people change when they feel loved. It actually motivates them to become the person they want to be....the person they really are inside. It's one thing to go through life alone. It's another thing to be constantly threatened and criticized by the people closest to you.

You missed the point.

No one is changing anyone. The change comes from within. Love creates and builds confidence.

You know, Simon and Garfunkel's "I am a Rock" keeps playing in my head when I come to this thread. It describes only one situation, but the thought process involved hits the mark for anyone who shuts out the world for whatever reason. It's about being hurt, feeling betrayed, and withdrawing within one's self.



A winter's day
In a deep and dark December;
I am alone,
Gazing from my window to the streets below
On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

I've built walls,
A fortress deep and mighty,
That none may penetrate.
I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

Don't talk of love,
But I've heard the words before;
It's sleeping in my memory.
I won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have died.
If I never loved I never would have cried.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

I have my books
And my poetry to protect me;
I am shielded in my armor,
Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.
I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

And a rock feels no pain;
And an island never cries.