I had an ex who, when I met him, worked steadily ... until he moved in with me. Since I had a good paying job, he just thought he'd sit at home on his azz and let me support him - and the three kids he brought along with him. Um ... NO.

If a guy won't do his share one way or the other, doesn't pick up after himself or sits there while he watches ME work, no matter how "good" he is about anything else, he's not a nice guy IMO.

Mmmh ladies, it really isn't so hard...

<<<<<<<<<<< this is a nice guy

Whywherewhenwho you look really nice. Friendly, outgoing to the right point, clean, interested, well-dressed, polite, with a decent hair cut, and not lazy. (It actually shows.)

I am not a woman! Well. Nobody is perfect. <=== last two lines in the movie "some like it hot", in the final scene in which Jack Lemon protests the plan by a millionaire older guy to marry him, thinking Jack is a woman, and then the millionaire philosophises why that's not a valid objection. That conversation is on a speed boat, while a base trombonist guy and Marilyn Monroe neck behind them on the backseat. This was all very risque, in a jovial Republican sense in the nineteen-fifties.