can one be rendered unable or incapable of love/loving after being through a ver traumatic experience, with a partner? ( please post more then a one word answer)

I don't think so.

It would vary from person to person, and be largely dependent upon the level of trauma experienced and one's own particular sensitivity and reaction to said trauma.

I wouldn't want to use the term "incapable of love" in any case, because it assumes a condition that is untestable and unknowable to anyone other than the subject himself/herself.

But I have known people who shut themselves off from love after one particularly nasty experience.

I agree, some may shut themselves off from love after one traumatic experience, but that doesn't mean they're not capable of loving, they simply choose not to be open to it.

Agree with you both!

the reason i ask, if you may have been wondering, is because i have somewhat recently been through a fairly traumatic experience and now feel like i said incapable of love, this could also be the choices ive made in what woman since the experience i have dated. ,,,, key details in the experience , dumped on thanksgiving for wanting to spend the day with my family, rekindled and talked about dateing again, she also talking to another man, dates other man (me un knowing ) and still messing around with me, other guy finds out, threatens me many occasions (after i cut her out the picture ) she comes back saying they broke up (lies), i fall for it ( my own stupidity), i find out there still dateing after i get jumped by him (and whooping his A$$) i break it off with her again . havnt talked to her since . that just some major points any questions just ask i dont mind.

Yes, they can. After a woman is abused by her partner; she can be afraid to fall in love again or ever trust another man. I am living proof of that.

Yes you can. But to get over or past it = first you have to heal from the traumatic experience and learn that people are different .
(Voice of experience here-- was in an abusive marriage, and them married and divorced again* and YEs I LOVED him)

no

yes

maybe

yes,no or maybe , jeez the answer was so simple !

i think u have just been very unlucky and have met the wrong person. u should have respect for yourself not to go back near this girl, have nothing to do with her. she is no good for u. i've had a tough time with an alcoholic husband, have come out the other side and am looking for love! dont think too much about it, just concentrate on being u again!

John Bobbit would say 'No'.....

well i agreee and have stayed away, but you're right i have just been being myself haha thats why im hear to find a good lady who likes the true me :P

Mingle and learn, there's all walks here.

The best to you!

Try not to shut the door on love.