Just got started on this site. Anyone else going through the same thing. Just looking for a friend to talk to.

I feel ya brother. A divorce can suck. My only advise is to not jump back into anything until the mind is clear. Good luck......

thx newark. no plans on anything anytime soon

Been separated for a year now and the divorce was finalized just last week. Throughout the process I lost everything I've had or known for the past decade. Its sucked, a lot.

For me, a year hasn't done anything at all to stifle my irritation and yes, hatred ... but only in regard to her. This is primarily because she continues to lie about everything and she doesn't believe me when I tell her I know when she's dishonest (we have two kids together, so I have to continue dealing with her). Otherwise, I've come to terms with my situation and am looking forward to what the future holds for me.

My advice, the biggest thing is to keep busy. Immerse yourself in something ... work, school, projects, etc. It will allow you to pace your thoughts, work out frustrations in a healthy manner and give you time to adjust to the change of atmosphere in your life ... otherwise you may dwell, seethe ...

Fun stuff. Good luck, man.

welcome to mingle

post & make some friends on here

I appreciate it Don. Been trying to work at it for almost ten years now. have gotten nowhere. I am currently serving in the Army so it will help me get my mind off of it, but it is still the hardest thing I have had to do. Despite everything else.