well hello shadow...not called just talked on yahoo....
you need to live closer to me lol

i guess i have just been out of the dating circle too long....i am getting to old for this LOL

Have you noticed the older you get the more the rules have changed and when youve been out of the scene for a few years you always wonder whats in and is it the same ad before.

lmao yes i have......makes me feel alot older

there are rules...? wow...

LOL...

.Hmm so you arent the only one. Things are so much different than when I was 25 before my last relationship. In some ways it is good. I dont have to try as hard and I know more of what to look for. In some ways growing older has its good and bad.

i guess part of my problem is that i have only really had two relationship....and with both i met then at work....
my first was for 8yrs the second was for 5

Angelslove, I'm not male, but I feel if this guy expects sex on the first date to make it worth his while to call.....you need to look for someone else who is good enough for you!!!

aww ty you all are makin me feel better!!!

Im the opposite my last two last 2 and 4 years......and the last was better than the former. But it is hard to start back but once you begin dating you get the hang of it. Even better if you find a real good person by the first date.

i am a really shy person so that just makes it harder lol

Its not that you are shy that you just need the right person to open up to. And coming from a failed relationship makes it harder because you put up shields and try to weed out those who are bad for you or who are like your ex. The best way to get someone to open up is to do soemthing active with them or do something fun together.

To old for this? your only 29 and that is when life is just getting interesting The funny thing about this topic is, you know whats going on and what to do it's just a matter of you doing it

I am jumping into the conversation abit late here but let me say this.

I am just starting out on the "dateing" scene after being married for ten years, then being dumped for another man. I know how you feel when you say that you don't know what to expect...hell I have no idea what I am doing. I do know a few things though.

Most of my friends are morons when it comes to women, they just want one thing and I believe that goes with most men.

I cannot comment on women in general but all I can do is say that you guys like to keep secrets from us guys for some reason. Don't hate me for saying that.

My main point is this....something good always comes to those who wait. I went thru 10 years of insanity, but I got my two wonderful daughters out of it.

Mr. Right will find you or you will find him, either way you will be happy. Good people cannot be screwed over ALL their lives dammit!!!

So true sometimes you have to be bold and if you want something you have to risk you pride to get it. You have to have the nerve to go up and introduce yourself and you have to believe strongly that noone is in or out of your league. Thats the way i feel. I have an equal chance of getting an6 womans attention than any other guy out there.

I'm withyou there......i went through 4 years of turmoil, of arguing and fighting and I have my two daughters now. And no matter who good or bad it was those two girls were worth every fight, every argument. every night i slept on the couch. You just take what you like from that relationship and now know of something yuor next mustnt be like.

oh gopd i hope your right kelly lol

yeah i agree with the hell part lol
shadow how old are you?

Yea I know what not to look for anymore....someone that is coldhearted and materialistic. I hate that. What the hell was I thinking.