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Topic: Dating For Marriage
ChangeofHeart's photo
Sun 05/22/11 01:19 PM
If a person tells you that upfront, do you still date them to see what happens. Or just avoid wasting thier time?

misty_57's photo
Sun 05/22/11 02:37 PM
If they tell you that up front, and you don't have any intention of marrying anyone, be up front with them.

Some people just like to date, some are looking for "the one" to marry. Be honest.
flowerforyou

ChangeofHeart's photo
Sun 05/22/11 02:43 PM

If they tell you that up front, and you don't have any intention of marrying anyone, be up front with them.

Some people just like to date, some are looking for "the one" to marry. Be honest.
flowerforyou
Thats cool. But you know some people just cant make up thier mindsscared

misty_57's photo
Sun 05/22/11 02:46 PM


If they tell you that up front, and you don't have any intention of marrying anyone, be up front with them.

Some people just like to date, some are looking for "the one" to marry. Be honest.
flowerforyou
Thats cool. But you know some people just cant make up thier mindsscared


LOL Tell them that. Be open right from the start.

no photo
Sun 05/22/11 02:54 PM

If a person tells you that upfront, do you still date them to see what happens. Or just avoid wasting thier time?


If they're determined to get married, I wouldn't pursue it. That's something I have no intention of doing again.


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Sun 05/22/11 03:15 PM
I would be open to marriage down the road to the right person. But, I am not dating specifically to find someone to marry right now.

That being said, I find it a little overwhelming when someone says right up front, before you even know anything about them, that they're looking for someone to marry. That's a little too serious for me right off the bat.

ChangeofHeart's photo
Sun 05/22/11 03:22 PM

I would be open to marriage down the road to the right person. But, I am not dating specifically to find someone to marry right now.

That being said, I find it a little overwhelming when someone says right up front, before you even know anything about them, that they're looking for someone to marry. That's a little too serious for me right off the bat.
Atleast you know what you want.

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Sun 05/22/11 04:39 PM

If a person tells you that upfront, do you still date them to see what happens. Or just avoid wasting thier time?


that's a tough one as I am open to an LTR and to a degree marriage..possibly

but when someone states that up front I tend to hedge a little because I am afraid to disappoint him - like if we date or talk at all he's gonna think we're getting married....

but then, I am doing myself no favors because I prolly have missed some really good guys because of this

nonetheless I prefer to let things progress for awhile before asking a lot of questions and talking about commitments

RKISIT's photo
Sun 05/22/11 04:40 PM
avoid wasting their time

EquusDancer's photo
Sun 05/22/11 05:18 PM
Thanks but no thanks. At the very least one needs to give it time.

fireflysgirl's photo
Sun 05/22/11 05:22 PM

Thanks but no thanks. At the very least one needs to give it time.


^this...marriage scared scared scared scared scared

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Tue 08/09/11 06:39 PM

I would be open to marriage down the road to the right person. But, I am not dating specifically to find someone to marry right now.

That being said, I find it a little overwhelming when someone says right up front, before you even know anything about them, that they're looking for someone to marry. That's a little too serious for me right off the bat.

oops

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Tue 08/09/11 06:44 PM


I would be open to marriage down the road to the right person. But, I am not dating specifically to find someone to marry right now.

That being said, I find it a little overwhelming when someone says right up front, before you even know anything about them, that they're looking for someone to marry. That's a little too serious for me right off the bat.

oops


Why oops?

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Tue 08/09/11 06:54 PM



I would be open to marriage down the road to the right person. But, I am not dating specifically to find someone to marry right now.

That being said, I find it a little overwhelming when someone says right up front, before you even know anything about them, that they're looking for someone to marry. That's a little too serious for me right off the bat.

oops


Why oops?

old topic (you are consistent)

Ladylid2012's photo
Tue 08/09/11 06:54 PM
lol

all these threads are
covering the same topic...

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Tue 08/09/11 06:57 PM
I am consistent because I've been honest about what I've been saying.

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 08/09/11 06:59 PM

If a person tells you that upfront, do you still date them to see what happens. Or just avoid wasting thier time?


I think it's good be upfront with your long term desires such as marriage. It's a deal breaker, either way, for many and if you go on a date it should come up fairly soon. It doesn't have to be the first date...that would be weird. But, definitely by the time you've decided you want to date this person more often.

missright83's photo
Tue 08/09/11 11:40 PM


If they tell you that up front, and you don't have any intention of marrying anyone, be up front with them.

Some people just like to date, some are looking for "the one" to marry. Be honest.
flowerforyou
Thats cool. But you know some people just cant make up thier mindsscared


To avoid having to deal with a psycho who will burst your car windows or graffiti your office block...you need to make up your mind about what it is you are looking for..otherwise, don't waste somebody else's time..its cruel!

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Tue 08/09/11 11:59 PM

lol

all these threads are
covering the same topic...



Yes, and I'm wondering if they are being created to drive a particular point home from different angles or what is up.

Kind of like, I can't prove it on this thread so I'll make another, well that one didn't work so how about this way, well maybe I was misunderstood so how about this one. I went through this in the religious section before and it gets old.

ujGearhead's photo
Wed 08/10/11 12:03 AM

If a person tells you that upfront, do you still date them to see what happens. Or just avoid wasting thier time?


I think it's good when somebody knows what they want and are upfront about it. Personally, I came here looking for only a LTR. Hopefully with that 'Long Term' becoming forever (the party bus has left!). However, if 'papers' are involved........who knows.....

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