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Topic: Anybody like to be Mentally expletive/deleted?
stefy Joined Sat 11/20/10 Posts: 2946	Thu 05/12/11 12:26 PM
I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' ^ What she said!

fireflysgirl Joined Mon 10/18/10 Posts: 2957	Thu 05/12/11 12:49 PM
What WOULD you hold against them? Liars, cheaters, cheap, stingy, hateful. That's what I'd hold against them..Other than that...all is fair in love and life.... You have that backwards...all is fair in love and war... I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' yup! you rock on this one souf I don't care how good looking a man is, if he isn't smart & interesting...it ain't gonna work!

mylifetoday Joined Sat 01/08/11 Posts: 1943	Thu 05/12/11 01:04 PM
I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' Agree: However, you stated men have a hard time grasping this. I would say that is a small percentage of men that applies to. The ones women refer to as "dogs." I believe most men (I know this to be true for myself) need much more than a physical attraction for a long term relationship. They need an emotional and mental connection with their woman as well. This is where so many women misunderstand men. Sex is a physical act, but sex without love is empty even for men. I would actually say, especially for men. The act of making love with the woman he loves is the way a man most fully shows his love for her. That clearly means there is a lot more going on than a physical attraction... Trust me, having sex with a woman that is disinterested but willing to do it to "satisfy his needs," is neither satisfying or fun for the man. I would rather be cutting the grass in the rain than be in that situation. At that point I feel I am little more than a machine to her.

Swimforrealsgirl Joined Thu 05/03/07 Posts: 399	Thu 05/12/11 03:49 PM
What WOULD you hold against them? Liars, cheaters, cheap, stingy, hateful. That's what I'd hold against them..Other than that...all is fair in love and life.... You have that backwards...all is fair in love and war... I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' Not true for me! I am attracted first physically and then need the emotional, intellectual stimulation to want it to go anywhere. I think it is not only men who are attracted by looks - some of us women want the same kind of attraction that we accuse men of wanting. I have met lots of guys who are nice, kind, sincere and have become great friends - but if the chemistry is not there - it is just not there. Maybe I am superficial - but just being honest!!! Chemistry is "mental stimulation". If a guy can't f-blank my brain...there's not much left to ponder...

Swimforrealsgirl Joined Thu 05/03/07 Posts: 399	Thu 05/12/11 03:51 PM
What WOULD you hold against them? Liars, cheaters, cheap, stingy, hateful. That's what I'd hold against them..Other than that...all is fair in love and life.... You have that backwards...all is fair in love and war... I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' yup! you rock on this one souf I don't care how good looking a man is, if he isn't smart & interesting...it ain't gonna work! So right...

fireflysgirl Joined Mon 10/18/10 Posts: 2957	Thu 05/12/11 04:45 PM
I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' Agree: However, you stated men have a hard time grasping this. I would say that is a small percentage of men that applies to. The ones women refer to as "dogs." I believe most men (I know this to be true for myself) need much more than a physical attraction for a long term relationship. They need an emotional and mental connection with their woman as well. This is where so many women misunderstand men. Sex is a physical act, but sex without love is empty even for men. I would actually say, especially for men. The act of making love with the woman he loves is the way a man most fully shows his love for her. That clearly means there is a lot more going on than a physical attraction... Trust me, having sex with a woman that is disinterested but willing to do it to "satisfy his needs," is neither satisfying or fun for the man. I would rather be cutting the grass in the rain than be in that situation. At that point I feel I am little more than a machine to her. I think people in general have a hard time grasping this concept. Believe me, having sex when you are not really interested is horrible on the woman's behalf as well! I knew my last relationship was doomed long before I ended it because I didn't want him anymore. I kept hoping the fire would be rekindled, but it never did. He was also insecure and constantly accusing me of thinking he was dumb...he finally convinced me he is an idiot

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Thu 05/12/11 04:46 PM
This is so weird. Ok. I am going to be totally honest. The reason I'm single...is because I liked to be Mentally %&*#@ first and foremost. The head goes, the body follows. Why?1?! i thought therapist did this to peoples minds

Swimforrealsgirl Joined Thu 05/03/07 Posts: 399	Thu 05/12/11 04:48 PM
I think most women are like that. Mental stimulation precurses any other form of attraction. Men have a hard time grasping this. They want the visual goods to be perfect first. Then they might look further. They will call it 'chemistry.' Whereas, if they enter through our minds we really do not care so much what they look like. We call THAT 'chemistry.' Agree: However, you stated men have a hard time grasping this. I would say that is a small percentage of men that applies to. The ones women refer to as "dogs." I believe most men (I know this to be true for myself) need much more than a physical attraction for a long term relationship. They need an emotional and mental connection with their woman as well. This is where so many women misunderstand men. Sex is a physical act, but sex without love is empty even for men. I would actually say, especially for men. The act of making love with the woman he loves is the way a man most fully shows his love for her. That clearly means there is a lot more going on than a physical attraction... Trust me, having sex with a woman that is disinterested but willing to do it to "satisfy his needs," is neither satisfying or fun for the man. I would rather be cutting the grass in the rain than be in that situation. At that point I feel I am little more than a machine to her. I think people in general have a hard time grasping this concept. Believe me, having sex when you are not really interested is horrible on the woman's behalf as well! I knew my last relationship was doomed long before I ended it because I didn't want him anymore. I kept hoping the fire would be rekindled, but it never did. He was also insecure and constantly accusing me of thinking he was dumb...he finally convinced me he is an idiot hee hee!

Swimforrealsgirl Joined Thu 05/03/07 Posts: 399	Thu 05/12/11 04:49 PM
This is so weird. Ok. I am going to be totally honest. The reason I'm single...is because I liked to be Mentally %&*#@ first and foremost. The head goes, the body follows. Why?1?! i thought therapist did this to peoples minds you made me laugh.... you are deep, dude. that is for sure....

fireflysgirl Joined Mon 10/18/10 Posts: 2957	Thu 05/12/11 05:10 PM
This is so weird. Ok. I am going to be totally honest. The reason I'm single...is because I liked to be Mentally %&*#@ first and foremost. The head goes, the body follows. Why?1?! i thought therapist did this to peoples minds Maybe I need one of those instead of a man then Apparently my mind is already fubared!

Swimforrealsgirl Joined Thu 05/03/07 Posts: 399	Thu 05/12/11 05:18 PM
This is so weird. Ok. I am going to be totally honest. The reason I'm single...is because I liked to be Mentally %&*#@ first and foremost. The head goes, the body follows. Why?1?! i thought therapist did this to peoples minds Maybe I need one of those instead of a man then Apparently my mind is already fubared! drinker: smokin: ha ha!