I had no desire to be around other men, I had everything i needed with my husband. True i enjoyed conversing with the men at my other jobs as well, but i would not go out to a concert or dinner with them.

I wouldn't go out to dinner with this one either; I'm pretty sure he'd bring one of his kids along.

That jumped right out at me. Really? Wouldn't your husband's problems also be your problems? Wouldn't you be operating as a unit? My ex also had that attitude. When my life melted down, she only treated it as a giant inconvenience for her. I never really understood that.

Ha, maybe that's why I'm never getting married. I don't want anyone else's problems to affect me.

Yeah. Probably a good choice. I think that's the "for better and for worse" part.

but loving someone else means being empathetic....it doesnt merit a wedding ring either. I take on my children's problems everyday, because i love them so much...not because the govt requires me too.

I don't want anyone else's problems to affect me.

Not no, but HELL NO!

I have a friend Claire, and she is married. I am friends with her husband, I like him and he is an awesome guy, but I am only around him when she is present.

I will talk to him on the phone a total of 3 minutes at any one time and it strictly involves Claire. I will never visit when she is not home.

I love my friend and I know my own human nature. If you put temptation in your path, even if you never initially considered it, its still hanging there between you.

I have a younger friend who is engaged. Sara is much more open minded and actually asked me to keep her fiance Adam company one day when she had to drive to Houston. I understand she doesn't see me as competition and I am not interested in 19 year old boys, but I told her admantly no.

I don't want my friendships to suffer because of paranoia. I was taught to respect that connection because my own mother pickled her own marriage and friendships with jealousy and suspicion.

Some of the ugliest personality traits of women are paranoid delusions about friends and lovers. Others still are friends not being smart enough to recognize that their friends could have that problem.

Basically...Chicks are Nuckin Futs and I wouldn't tempt fate.

There's nothing wrong being friends with whomever, married or not, for as long as it doesn't jeopardize one's marriage in any way.



Nothing wrong with it.



Either that's for you to prove him wrong or for you to make him realize it's not even a good thinking.

I used to hang out with lots of my good friends (mostly male) before getting married but my estranged husband got kind of jealous of them so after telling them my situation, I redirected my life and left this circle of friends. Doing this did not give me the benefit of a long marriage though. Now, I am back with the same circle of friends whose friendship never changed the way it used to be just as if I never left them.

Does he also choose your clothes, tell you what to eat, how to wear your hair, where you can or cannot work?


Seriously.....have you heard of controlling relationships?

They start out insidiously....just little comments...here, and there...and of course, you love them, so you do everything you can to please them.....and THEN the bigger requests come out....and BIGGER, and BIGGER....until you have to get permission to talk to the postman!


it's really simple....if you didn't want to make friends, you wouldn't have joined.

Marriage does not mean giving up your own mind...nor your choices.


If he is uncomfortable with that, and is not violent....then book him into therapy...he's got a whole lifetime of it awaiting him!

what would be my status then. i'm married for today wife told she
has fallen out of love with after 26 yrs and she most likely be moving
out. i've been dealing with it for 2 years now and I don't want to waste
any more of my time missing out. can anyone help me understand this

This is serious issue.

u BOTH need to have family counselling, if u are interested in keeping ur relation.

hello myself raj from delhi

hello myself raj from delhi

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