I never thought of myself as an alcoholic, but others did. From the drinker's view I never thought that I had a problem, but drinking for breakfast is not good. Looking back I know I lost friends because of my drinking, but there were a few that stuck with me. I went through some programs (I did not volunteer for them) but they did not work because I was not ready to quit. It took a bad accident to wake me up and get my head straight so I did not feel like I needed a drink anymore. That might be what he needs, a wake up. But when I was drinking, there were people who still cared for me but while I was drinking I knew not to come around their house because they talked to me about it (probably a few times). Now that I do not drink any more we are still friends but those that wrote me off I have not heard from. I guess the question is do you really want to cut all ties or just help fix the behavior?

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