Hi, I met a very attractive man. He's wheelchair user. We have decided to go out soon. I have never dated a person who is disabled. we have decided to go to a restuarant then back to my house (which has stairs) to watch a movie. I am wondering what i should and should not do in terms of helping him. i am a little nervous. thanks!

i don't think it would be inappropriate for you to offer assistance, but don't over do it. if your friend has been in a wheelchair for any length of time, he will know how to maneuver himself around. as for the staircase, i'm sure if you ask him, he will tell you how he normally negotiates such obstacles. good luck

just be yourself
i dated a man that was in a semi accedent which left him disabled
he used a walker and a wheel chair he was a very nice man
we were together for awhile
and he lived with his parents due to his accedent which i understood that.. that part didnt bother me
what bother me was
i knew deep down he couldnt emotionally support me and i couldnt him
maybe i was wrong but that was how i felt.
he wouldnt talk to me for along time up untill resently i saw him online and he actually said hi

I think it would be ok to ask his experiences about it, so he'd know you're interested in knowing without being too intrusive. As for me, I'd treat him the same way as any normal guy. With most disabled people I've met as patients, that's what they told me they want to be treated. Normal, with just a little bit of consideration when they need it.

thanks for your responses. i spoke to him about the stairs at my home and he told me he may need some assistance (perhaps a carry). otherwise, i think it will be a normal outing.

just remember a person with a disabilty
is just like anyone else a human with feelings

Date went well. I was not nervous at all. At my house, I/him decided to give my date a romantic carry/necessary carry up my stairs after dinner. Thanks for your light on this.

good on ya mate

if there will be future dates. May I suggest having a convenient plank of wood in your garage.