Well ok today would a been a year and 4 months ago with bf but now he is my ex he broke it off feb 25 over phone. I mean I had never been so more like really really in-love with a guy... 4 months ago i got hit by a car..and he came next day when i was in room.. he brought me a gift.. and all sweet he stayed for a bit...i mean i don't get it out of no where this guy who would treat me so good so great tell me he loved me he adored me and i absolutely loved him till death.. we talked about marriage kids... and all.. he waited 4 months too tell me he feelings changed long time .. ago i don't get it what did i do wrong.. here i'm super devastated.. i mean why are men afraid of commitment.. i was asking too get married now.. but he changed so much... its like he got bored of me the 4 months i was in bed rest .. really.. i know he still cared when accident.. but like a month ago.. he still talked about marriage kids and all... the day we broke it off... he blamed me for talking about marriage when he started it.... i don't get it at all.. i really don't...i don't think i well ever trust a man like i trusted him again.. Now I'm stuck with so many wonderful memories in my mind in my heart...but yet so painful ones... i met his family he met mine ... i didn't wanna meet his mother because i was afraid something like this would happen... he said everything happened too fast... he just wanted too be alone... when i most needed him.. he does this.. all i do is cry.. and mad anger..i don't know what too do with my self.. i mean i'm ok yet not ok...

I mean is it wrong too miss him... I feel and others that knew us together feel and think.. that the 4 months i couldn't really walk he must of met someone.. as messed up as that sounds... but a lot of people say the way he did all this too me.. one day he well realize.. that i was really good for him and he left me for no dam reason... but it'll be too late... just... gosh... i don't understand... men at all..
why would he say...he hates hearing me cry that's why he didn't know how too tell me really...and the fact he kinda said he was talking too someone else.. common isn't that cheating..i mean if he is talking too her spending time with her and completely ignoring me.. wth.. i don't get how a year ago on valentines he was completely in love with me he would say it yell it.. show it.. and this valentines i didn't even get a dam text..

Its like this guy took me too see lots.. houses..he told his family he was gonna marry me... he was sure.. he even promised.. once he was working 6 months at where he is working now wanted too get engaged and get married.. i just keep thinking did i do something wrong... all i did was respond too his love.. well now i think all lies..

like a week and a half before.. accident i had.. he had got universal studios yearly passes.. i don't get it.. at all.. like if he didn't plan on staying.. why buy that... i'm so confused...

i wish i could see what he is doing threw a glass ball lol and hope he was miserable..

I feel sorry for your loss of somebody you really cared for. It sounds to me like the guy didn't really know what he wanted. As much as it may surprise many women, guys can be very indecisive too. I'm actually not afraid of commitment myself, but always end up with a woman that seems to be afraid of it. But then, I don't get into a relationship with a woman unless I see the potential of spending my life by her side in the first place. I have the view that why waste your time and effort on something that you don't see being there forever.

Not all men have commitment issues. I think it is more the case that the guys that like commitment, are already committed into a relationship, or trying to find the woman that will be committed to them. I know that is my issue, though in all reality I am not looking for serious commitment at this point due to the recent onslaught of bad relationships.

Don't give up all hope on men. There is one out there that will commit to you for a lifetime, just takes time to find him.

yep yep, what ^^scttggry^^ said!! and although easier said than done, try not to let it get the better of you, rather, you, be better because of this. shine chica!!

Interesting .

If it will make you feel better , Men have a hard time getting in to a womans

head and understanding their motives. Hearts are broken everyday , it is not unique , you are not alone.

I have given my heart and soul to women that have done just the same ; for what ever reason move in other directions . Sure , they do not want to see you cry , because they do not want to feel guilt they so rightly deserve.

Nobody wants a broken heart or feel they been had . I can tell you harboring ill feelings for him is just bad for your soul and a testament to a crumbly foundation. Really , who gives a $hit what that guy is doing , wish him the best. The sooner you move on and have control of your feelings , the better off YOU will be.

In retrospect I'm sure you will see you are better off .

I send you hugs .. Hang in there .

Jim

yeah you are right... just i was up on a cloud lol and the fall down was hard and painful real painful...it sucks .. i really liked his family and all... that's how i think why be with someone if you don't think it'll go no where.. through throughout my whole relationship i had with him i started too realize this guy gives up easy... like a lot..like not only me its him.. i would try too get through him but i couldn't at all.. his mom would talk too me.. when ever she couldn't get through him..who knows... i guess... whatever s now... i just hope i can trust men again....

..it' not a gender thing..it's a person thing..one bad apple will spoil the whole bunch if you keep it in the same barrel..

"he waited 4 months too tell me he feelings changed long time .. ago"


It is possible that his feelings changed but didn't want throw the relationship away without giving himself time to see if it was just something temporary, he may have waited to see if his feelings changed back and when they didn't he decided to move on. Some guys would tell you its over then 3 weeks later tell you he made a mistake and wants you back only to leave you again. Never blame yourself for a failed relationship, if you did something you would know it.

I feel your pain Poohbear.....so sorry you are going through this. As you can see you are not alone. You have done nothing wrong.

Like Tom said: "..it' not a gender thing..it's a person thing"
He was not strong enough to let you know how he felt, shame on him, he didn't give you the chance to understand, to work on his issues he was having,together.

In time the hurting will ease, you will not forget the good or the bad but know you will have good times with another when you are ready.

Hugs to you girl!

yup - there were prolly signs that he was changing that you didn't notice (that normally you would have) if not for your accident

sounds like a bad case of cold feet, topped with a generous helping of met someone else

I hope that doesn't happen.. come back and then hurt me again.. i cant take this pain twice with him.. really i cant i never been this in love.. and never been this heart broken...i get out with friends that doesn't help.. i enjoy family time that doesn't.. help...the second i get home reality checks in lol.... i hate reality... i cant stop loving him.. as much as i hate him... grrr mix emotions... lol...

exactly he blamed everything on me... that relationship was going too fast... really.. he begged me too meet his family and i did... his mom got really close..now i feel.. like wow didn't only loose him but lost his mom was a really great friend.. i cant talk too her.. if we are broken up...she would text me call me.. invite me shopping.. i mean .. i don't get it... really i think cold feet he got... that means every time.. he gets cold feet he runs away from people wow how sad..

it is very sad that he didn't give a better explanation from his heart - instead of blaming and hurting

maybe if you give it time - you can go to him and ask him to explain truthfully from the heart without blamimg-and u can promise to listen without becoming angry or overly emotional (men are afraid of women's emotions)

Why Men Are Afraid to Commit.

(You may wanna take notes)


Thier time for themselves is GONE. (if thier time doesn't revolve around you....they ain't trying)

All holidays/birthdays/gatherings...will involve dealing with her family.

What if she gets ugly? (it happens)

All money is spoken for before it is even earned.

Plenty of ladies are single mothers....getting the joy of inevitably dealing with her ex constantly at the door or just anywhere on the pretext of "It's about the kid"....sucks @$$ and it doesn't stop.

Fear of monotany.

Fear of monogamy.

Fear of coming home and finding a room repainted lavender.

Most wives outlive thier husbands....I won't let em do me in too.

If there is a split (there usually is) .....spiteful greed gets drug into the picture.



It always hurts to lose something that you want badly. Baby....I am glad it wasn't 4 years. Hurt hurts....there is no diminishing that. But, eventually the pain passes. Just be a good person....other opportunities will eventually avail themselves to you.

Not every swing of the bat is gonna be a home run. But, ya still gotta step up to the plate and take your best shot....

Y'all are too long winded. Let me shorten this up. Men would like commitment a lot more, if they weren't required to actually participate and could have sex with other women, if available. But most women want them to participate and want to be the only one for sex too.

You might want to think about what kind of sacrifice a man has to make when he finally does settle, before you demand too much.

I live in a town where the women outnumber men 4 to 1. All I keep thinking his, "He has options, better take it slow."