geesh i dont get on here much anymore... and i havent even opened any mail for humm over that? i have said a few things in the forums... i think some of my mail got deleted.. for me.. im sorry.. to those i did not answer.. usually i do.. or did? i hope no one is offended at all its nothing to do with individuals.. but has to do with my life... like you i dont have all that time... for me personally i am not looking for a partner. so it doesnt matter to me at this time.. perhaps you are.. however even if you are looking.. you do have a life as well.. rather it be outside the internet or too many emails...<been there as well> do what is best for you.. cause YOU do matter! and dont forget that!.. best of luck to you.. at this stage as it sounds... you are friends with them... and friends do understand!