So, I went out the other day with a guy I met on this site and I had a wonderful time. He's a sailor in the Navy and he wore his uniform. It was cute. We talked a lot and he was a real gentleman. He opened doors for me and we went to the art museum and then took a stroll downtown before winding up at the House of Blues for dinner. When we took the taxi to the train station so he would make it back to base on time, he gave me a hug and said that he had a good time and wished it could have been longer. Then he went inside without a wave or anything. I messaged him the next day online to make sure he made it back to base on time and I complimented him on his uniform and stuff. Here's what he wrote back: "thank you and yes i made it back to base on time i also had a really nice time". Guys, could you please explain this to me? What does it all mean? I wonder if I'm just not pretty or preppy enough for anyone on this site. Am I just thinking too much? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I don't want him to think I'm desperate or anything, but I hate wondering if a guy likes me or not. I hate mind games.

I don't think anyone can answer your question, except for him. Maybe he's not really in to you. Maybe he's thinking that he has to feign disinterest, in order to inspire interest in you. Or maybe he is just a typical guy who doesn't express emotions and doesn't have much to say. Don't all women want the strong silent type?

I'm not a guy........ but I would imagine he meant He had a really nice time. Don't dwell on him......... go out and you have a really nice time meeting other men.......if he gets back to you well good, if not, well.......it's his loss and he wouldn't have been a good match for you probably in the long run.You want someone who can't wait to be with you right??? So keep looking.
God bless

No actually Spider the strong silent type really isnt good at all...sometimes maybe but most of the time no..it doesnt help anything to be that way


He is probably just being a typical guy Motevia

i know u wanted feedback from the guys..but i agree with spider..some or most men wont sometimes say what they feel..just cause he didnt come out and tell u he thought u were pretty, doesnt mean he doesnt think it..i consider myself very attractive and have had many dates where a guy doesnt tell me so..cant take it personal. some guys r intimidated too and so are women..i know i can be..

Being a sailor myself it's often confussing to keep your mind on anything other than your work, as the Navy is the brains and the marines are the brawn (Seals excluded) cut him a lil slack at least cause if he's living on a Naval base or Air Station his mind is full, keep your intrest in him and he prolly will do the same, i had the same problem with my ex, she never new how I felt as I was always brain tired and just wanted to clear my mind.

Good Morning Dayv!! Well almost noon here now

Thanks for the advice, guys. I'll just keep my horizons open and be patient. Dayv, do you think I should invite him into the city this weekend for just an informal hang-out rather than a full-fledged date to make it a bit more comfortable? I know we were both really nervous prior to meeting, so I'm wondering if it would be better to do something more informal if we see each other again?

prolly would be a great idea, also, try not to overwhelm him with questions, I'm not sure what he does, but the higher the rank, the more stress on your mind, go slow, very slow, if you like him it will work out, weekends may be his only get away, do something fun, like a fair, etc... any questions that you do ask, try to minimal on his rate(job. Although I can't really speak for him, I can however offer you my personal experiences.

Thanks, Dayv. I'll keep that definitely in mind. We had fun talking about movies, books, and other general stuff. He's a really sweet guy and I'd like to get to know him better. I'll definitely work on my patience. LOL. I'm not sure what his rank is but I do know he has been stressed at the base. He hasn't even been online yet today, so I'm not surprised that he hasn't gotten to write me back. I'll just let it go for now and wait a bit to ask him if he'd like to come and hang out so he can have his space.

Hmmmm.....I wonder if he is reading this right now .....

I highly doubt it. It would be funny, though!

Try not to read too much into it. Guys are simple they say what they mean....we are the ones that analyze it to death give it some time and good luck

youre so right about that auburn!!! Ive been known to analyze my analyzing......true story!!!

LOL Gypsy...do you ever watch the Greg Bernhardt show? That guy that wrote the book "He's Just Not That Into You" ? He had a show last week about trying to figure out what men mean...I laughed til I thought I would throw up! The guys said, if on a Saturday night a guy says we'll do whatever you want to, you pick a place...THAT is what they mean...we say ohhh he doesn't really like me, doesn't want to go out, etc I guess it really is easier than we often think huh?!

Well that is tough, but instead of guessing and being vauge, tell him that your interested and ask him if he is too, and let him know that it's ok if he isn't, afterall it was just the first date ? It's tough finding someone that is everything you need and they finding the same in you. Just keep being yourself, and keep going out... you'll know when you have that special connection, and it won't be questionable...good luck!

yes, they are far less complex than us. We start making up scenarios in our heads. Its taken me a long time to figure this out....

I hear ya gypsy....just got that one myself!

Complex? Simple?

Harry!!!!!!!!! What's up you!?!