Topic: "Equitable Relationships"
LoveAlina's photo
Mon 11/15/10 02:13 PM
People want to feel that they are being treated and treating others fairly, that what they are getting out of a relationship is equivalent to what they are putting into it. Many of us attempt to maintain relationships that are fair and just. In other words, it is perceived as fair when the outcomes of a relationship are proportional to the contribution each makes.

Why do we often find ourselves involved with an in-between inequitable relationship?

CatsLoveMe's photo
Mon 11/15/10 02:20 PM

People want to feel that they are being treated and treating others fairly, that what they are getting out of a relationship is equivalent to what they are putting into it. Many of us attempt to maintain relationships that are fair and just. In other words, it is perceived as fair when the outcomes of a relationship are proportional to the contribution each makes.

Why do we often find ourselves involved with an in-between inequitable relationship?


Because too often, pride, vanity, arrogance, and selfishness prevails. The sooner we drop that, the more likely an "equitable" relationship can prosper.

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Mon 11/15/10 06:47 PM

People want to feel that they are being treated and treating others fairly, that what they are getting out of a relationship is equivalent to what they are putting into it. Many of us attempt to maintain relationships that are fair and just. In other words, it is perceived as fair when the outcomes of a relationship are proportional to the contribution each makes.

Why do we often find ourselves involved with an in-between inequitable relationship?
IDK Alina

certainly we can't control all of the human (or even non human) variables of a relationship. Nor can we control the other person's perception of what equitable is - nor their expectations of what they expect to "get"


galendgirl's photo
Mon 11/15/10 07:13 PM
Your post seems to focus on the person feeling a "lack" of contribution by the other party...
What about the person who never feels quite like they give enough?

How do you evaluate these measures, regardless of what side of the equation you are on?

Remember there are two sides to every equitable (or not) relationship.

Just playing devil's advocate. Good thread.