hmm I think you pretty much only get as much out of these sites as you bring into them. the beauty of having forums like this is it gives you the chance to show yourself off a bit if you are here looking for a partner. Most dating sites you only get a profile for people to go by. Here you get the chance to show what you're all about. Suppose it can hurt some as much as help others I guess.lol Best way I look at it is go in expecting nothing and you may be pleasantly suprised. if nothing else you can at least have a few laughs.