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| Topic: Getting used to the idea of being alone..... | |
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Look I wont go into my entire life story but lets just say this. EVERY single person who ever claimed to love me or care for me left me, hell even those who didn't care left too. EVERYONE. I have been emotionally alone my entire life. Due to this I have always yearned to be loved and to show the love that I was denied. I really have tried and I have had some really good relationships. I have not been screwed over by every guy or anything like that. What I have found to be true though, Is that life is VERY long and things change. I would like to see some stats on how many marriages or people stay together till death till they part. I feel that we are attempting to live out a standard that is impossible for 90% of humanity. The answer is no I don't want to be alone but I also am really tired of being hurt and left alone because the dream failed again. I just want to be happy in life and enjoy being here and I have found that if I rely on myself for my own happiness than I wont get hurt anymore. I have a great dog and a wonderful daughter and I don't have the time to be crying myself to sleep anymore. I don't see how a relationships can offer anything that you cant already get from a good friend of a good *uck buddy that you trust.  I can relate Imma join ya girls Welcome to the club! We are always accepting new members And we shall be called the Unlovable's! LOL I kid I kid |
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^^ I prefer something more positive, lol. Really, I'm just a dreamer tired of being hurt, adjusting to being the black sheep in my circle of friends, and waiting for the real thing.
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So you don't want any kind of relationship, just sex as it's obviously available to you at any time, and then your life can continue on leaving anyone who cares about you behind... how shallow. (just the kind I'd expect to find online, sad but true) wow just the kind of insensitive crap I would expect on a lesser forum filled with pre teen boys. You are wrong. I wont bother to prove you wrong because that would take to much time and effort and I have a feeling it would be wasted on you. The weirdest thing is that you are not a woman. Who would have thunk a man would think getting laid and moving on would be shallow. LOL! Well if I am wrong it wouldn't take much time or effort to point out the obvious. I'm not sure I understand what being a man or woman has to do with it except that if a man posted the same thread he'd get roasted. It's not at all shallow to move on when you know a certain situation is not for you and is going nowhere, but in my opinion you have to be a little shallow and self centered to move on beforehand... you don't have to agree. To be honest after reading that I think you got a different conclusion out of what I posted than what I had meant to portray. I am not in a relationship therefore I am not leaving anyone or in fact "moving on" at all. I just feel that due to my own personal experiences that due to a combination of my own strong personality and life in general that a life long relationship is out of the question for me. I don't personally enjoy random sex but I have found happiness in a FWB. I don't think that me taking an honest look at myself and my experiences, and then making a life change to suit myself for success is selfish or shallow. Oh and BTW I cant just get laid anytime I want. I am a certified nerd, I spend all my free time AND my work time online. I spend my weekends on forums debating politics or just searching random topics online like Arabian horses, orca whales and pit bulls...oh and lets not forget my favorite the Yellowstone super volcano. LOL I am shy and closed off so don't assume that just because I take good pictures in my boredom that I have men lined up. Lol, ok that's fair. I was under the impression that you were simply dtf(down to f, that's what they call it these days), and nothing else. I'm finding myself annoyed by that when I go out and actually find someone I want to get to know it's really not an option, even if the sex is really good and she still doesn't want to know anything about me.. for whatever reason..(probably because she doesn't know me..) I've met alot of crazy ones in my day and at some point, they get pissed at you. You don't know why or even that they're mad, but once they decide that things are over they'll use the relationship to f you over as hard as possible. Basically the more you like them the more it hurts so I've personally dealt with the idea that maybe it's better not to like them at all, and that's taken me down a road so to speak. I just didn't like what I found there and I don't think you would either. Actually in my opinion a fwb situation is a relationship of sorts. |
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Unfortunately, the way the original comment was phrased, it sounds like a different type of settling, and one that you really won't be happy with. Some people can do the alone thing but come across as bitter and miserable, which is why they'll remain alone, bitter and miserable.
There's certainly nothing wrong with being alone, and the individual makes it what they want to be. I enjoy my alone time, and doing what I want, how I want it. Even sex falls fairly low, though it becomes a jokey thing when out with one of my groups of friends. I won't settle for a FWB, just to get some because it's just settling. |
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Sometimes I think it is a very nice thing to be alone!! I truly believe that some people think that they have to have someone in their life to make them whole. I myself, I don't date and I don't want to right now. I have been divorced for almost 13 years now and I love it!! I have dated in those 13 years but right now...this is my time. I do have my reasons why I don't want to date, BUT if I met someone I liked...I am not totally against dating.
Good Luck to everyone..no matter what your reasons are for dating or not dating 
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