how much do your past relationships influence your current or future relationships?

everything you have been through in the past makes you who you are today, so i would have to say it has everything to do with things.

I've learned and grown from my past relationships so they have an influence to a point.. There are some that still hold a place in my heart as great people and great experiences and there are some that are better forgotten but remembering the lesson learned...

My past relationship do not make me angry or a man hater but smarter from experiencing some bad things and appreciative of the great experiences/people..

i also think it has alot to do with my future relationships but at the same time don't feel that some one should judge another person based on there past because people do change and i look for the best things about some one i like and go from there

i find myself appreciating the small things. Hindsight being 20/20, I try not to make the same mistakes.

I try to learn from past mistakes. Try not to judge or compare. Still trying to get the balance right tho. Don't want to walk into the same traps, but don't want to lose out because of errant judging.

They have everything to do with me being alone for the past 4 years. I choose to do things different. That hasent attracted very many woman. But i dont have to deal with the things i put myself through in the past. I guess i will meet someone i click with when i least expect it.

i totally disagree...but i am not sure this is what the op meant.

it is all fine to look for the best in people, however, if you ignore their past, you are ignoring what has made them, them.

each new relationship is new and full of amazing adventures...at least that's the way it's supposed to be, but for me it seems that they are nightmares that i wish i could escape from. i'd be lying if i told you that past screw-ups didn't make me a better person going into the next relationship.

Since past relationships often change us, sometimes subtly and sometimes a lot, I think they effect future relationships.

It's un-avoidable.
You have a great time at the ocean you'll go back comfortably and expecting greater things the next time. You have a bad experience in life and your survival instincts kick in and you're a bit more apprehensive the next time.

I have to guard myself regularly and sift through certain actions that 'trigger' me into certain defensive patterns. Once I learn that the lady with me is who SHE IS and not the person of my past, the matter is clarified once and for all. It makes you feel like you're 19 again on your first date, learning all about what makes that woman tick. :)

It's not easy, but it can be learned.

my .02 cents worth, your mileage may vary,

K.

The past is the past, and should not reflect on your present circumstance. Let it go and enjoy what you have right now!

well in your disagreeing you should understand that im not saying to ignore there past im saying i don't think that people should be judged based on there past

(in very deep voice) yeah, what she said.

so what do you judge them on? their future? that is impossible to do.

i make decisions based on what happens in the relationship i have with someone and that goes for friends i make and the women i date

sense i don't wanna date anymore, i would say a lot...

Just a question about this statement...What if the past relationships were with the same type of men/women and you wound up in bad situations each time?

i.e. If you were with someone who liked drinking but became abusive when they were drunk, you wouldn't let that relationship affect your future choice in dating someone? Meaning, maybe you would look for someone who doesn't drink or doesn't drink as much?

I think each of our past relationships have helped us to grow and evolve, we should learn from our past. Just my opinion.

It has a lot to do with who you are in the present, however, the negativity of the past can bombard it's way into an otherwise great relationship and tear it to pieces. I refuse to be someone who blames the next person for the last one's mistakes, however my guard is somewhat up so it takes a whole lot to gain my full trust, but it's well worth it in the end. Most men I talk to start out with a clean slate and it's up to them whether what they apply to it is negative or positive...and that makes all the difference in the world.

They've taught me that my best plan of action is to pretty much avoid everybody.