Topic: How quickly do you fall for someone or grow attached? | |
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I will admit I have fallen "fast".....and regretted it every time.
But then I realized that I had to go through those "adventures" in order to learn how to take my time and fall in love "correctly". I learned to take my time, ask questions, get to know his quirks, his thoughts and his feelings.....And when he kissed me the first time---I was hooked!!! (It was five months after first talking to him on here, that was three years ago and we are still together!) |
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so. . .does anyone need any computer or office supplies?? LOL
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I don't fall or get attached to someone quickly.bI don't jump the gun before checking it out...and not only with guys but with my produce to
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I don't fall or get attached to someone quickly.bI don't jump the gun before checking it out...and not only with guys but with my produce to yes, it's best to avoid the soft bananas... |
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I meet a guys all the time. Some come and go.
But they all promise the same thing. To stick around, take thing slow, and be devoted. I have learned one thing from them. That I want to thank them for. Thanks for making the competition smaller. So now I am taking things very slow. Doesn't mean I dont lust. I just don't love. All good things come to those who wait and are patient! |
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good things come to those who go out and find them
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Quicker than I thought
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This depends. If you take time to get to know them, with boundaries, it will be longer before you get attached. The faster you allow someone in and actively integrate them into your daily activities and decision making, then the faster you will get attached. If you tend to get attached quickly it's important to go slow. There is a good reason: A person who comes into your life like whirlwind and is easily and quickly attached is a RED FLAG. They will leave your life just as quickly and possibly without a second thought. You may think they care about you, but chances are they are just happy to not be alone and likely flit to person to person for brief, intense and utterly meaningless relationships. Ones they say mean something. A true bond takes time to build. I hear this one big time, from personal experience, in both being hurt like that recently, and also in the bond I am feeling being formed right now. It didn't seem like it would go this way when I met her, but as time has gone on, it has started to happen. I haven't known her all that long yet per se, and only really started to talk to her more regularly the last week and a half, but in that time I definitely feel we have gotten closer to be sure. 1 day at a time is about all any of us can do with anything including new people in our lives. try not to expect too much to soon, but also watch for your REAL feelings & be honest w/ urself I tend to form attachments quickly, but they are not usually romantic ones right away, being attached, feeling attached to others is perfectly normal. Just wait on what TYPE of attachemnt it becomes UR fine. It's those who cannot form attachments that need their electrical systems checked (as in that's a problem - not functional) -jmho |
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It really all depends on the person.. With some people it happens fast and others it really has to develop for anything to happen. I tend to fall slowly.
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honestly i fall fast. sometimes too fast for my own good which gets u hurt but i have been in love very deeply and i dont regret all of it lol jus some of it :)
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i tend to fall in love fast and hard wich has always lead to heart ach
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so. . .does anyone need any computer or office supplies?? LOL i still need those paperclips... |
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so. . .does anyone need any computer or office supplies?? LOL i still need those paperclips... I need new pens.. I'll send you my extra paperclips... |
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sweet....saves me a trip!
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sweet....saves me a trip! Well sorta.. I didn't tell you how I was going to give them to you... |
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good point! |
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