If your heart wants something should you listen to it or remember the distance? Or do you listen and go with the wind?

I'm on Long Island NY and he is in western Idaho...2,557 miles... We have been a couple for more than 3 years and are engaged to be married. If you really love and care for the person, you make it work.

This lady speaks the truth

Listen to your

If a lady want to be the one to travel, then distance is no problem for me.

Couldn't have said it any better, as long as you love this person, distance will never matter, it is all about how you feel about each other.

Distance matters. Especially when you finally meet the person and they are nothing like they pretended to be from 897,000 miles away. I know it works for some people, God bless 'em, but I would never try another LDR.

Need booty on the daily not on the yearly on to the next one

I agree with Lex. For some it works, but not for me. I've had LDRs of 160 miles and 55 miles and even with those distance got in the way. They worked for a year or two, but they just didn't work because of that. This was YEARS ago, so there's even less chance of it working now that I own my home (and NOT moving anytime soon) as well as my own business. The ONLY way it could remotely work is if she was planning to move close to me in the near future. PERIOD!

Personally, I've been led to believe one thing and then been stunned by reality a time or two. Would I listen to my heart and have another LDR? Probably not.

I see the positives in it such as building trust, becoming best friends, etc. However, after traveling half way across the country to meet with a potential mate (years ago) and learning that person was absolutely nothing like he portrayed himself to be...well, I won't be making that mistake twice.

As Lex said, "God bless 'em, but I would never try another LDR."

right on, Lex..been that road before, and still paying for it

Is distance a problem?

Well, if a woman wants to go the distance for me, then no problem.

oh you....youre sooo funny...

Why would a person allow distance to get in the way of happiness? Distance should only be temporary if two people are really happy.

I view the “distance” issue as an excuse.

Then relocate ya dork!!!

It's not like its 1840 and we have to use cover wagons to get around. Planes, trains, automobiles and U-Haul are around for a reason!!!

I know it can work. From Tenn (him) to Cali for me - and a great 6 year relationship!

my man lives 8/10 hours away...he loves me...he travels to me with no complaints......



its called love........

Ideally, sure....

In my experience, it's always called "deception." Which is a whole different kettle of fish....

ya know Lex.......

I would travel the distance just to have coffee with ya!........

and dance!......

yea believe it or not ..... it is the ideal relationship for us.....

(IT TOOK US TWO OLD FOOLS LONG ENOUGH!)


If ya find that spark.....that connection....do not fool with it


Go to her my brother!!!!!!

You know what's funny about that....?

I would relocate in a minute for the right person. I hate it where I am, I'd gladly leave, I just don't have anyplace to go, and no reason to go there.

BUT -- and here's the problem -- I'd have to be really really SURE about it. And I don't think there's any way to be THAT sure without spending copious amounts of time with someone, which is pretty much precluded by the whole LDR scenario.

So it's basically a catch-22.

Goof only do long distance. Him no likey local chicks cause they give bad head....I mean....wait what???