I noticed that many people never been in love or think it wasn't love what they felt..back in the day..whenever they were in a relationship.

Also explain, why you think it's not good or it doesn't exist (if you think that way)

And for last, those who doesn't want to be in love or doesn't believe they gonna be in love , because it's not important or they think they are incapable for whatever reason.

I know they are out there..I keep reading about how they like to explain that it's either bad, not good, or never felt it.

I know when I was 15-19ish, I'd swear I was in love a few times, but looking back on it years later ... it was more like a puppy love type deal. It feels similar. the only difference is that puppy love is easier to get over. Real love takes a lot longer to get over. Thats just my opinion in my experience.

I believe in love. A respectful love, even after the lust subsided.

I want the mindblowing lust/love that I think is out there, but since I have a bad tendency to analyze things, it will probably never happen.

Yeah thinking back; I don't think I have ever been in love; more of a crush and nothing much has changed. I guess it does exist for some but I don't know it will ever exist for me. As for being capable I am sure I am but realistically giving the odds at my age; I don't think it will happen but doesn't mean I can't have some good friends.

I'm sure it exists (at least insofar as my own ability to feel it for someone else) --

But I'm not sure I would ever let myself go that route again. It's more trouble than it's worth, particularly since I know, going in, it's only a matter of time before she starts trying to change me.

I've been somehow "orbiting" around this topic for a few days, feeling like I wanted to say something, but didn't really know what.

It's neither that I don't believe in love (because I do), nor that I've never been in love (because I have).

The way I see it, it's a question of potential energy.

People "in the know" usually speak about "falling in love", and I find it an appropriate metaphor because in order to be able to *fall*, you first have to be in some kind of high place - then, gravity will do its job of converting potential energy into kinetic energy.

As for me, I fell in love once, hit the ground, and then stayed on the ground. There can be no more "falling" for me because I don't have any potential energy at the moment.



The sad part about being on the ground and not knowing how to reach a higher place is that I now know who I am much better than I did in the past. Usually people would suggest me to cheer up, go out and all that sort of things, and for a while I would believe them, I would try, and I would fail - but the brief hope of believing to be somebody else would allow me to climb onto the ledge and jump (and crash).

Knowing who I am makes things a lot more difficult, because I know I want to love someone without falling. I guess I should keep my eyes open for partners who are "fallen" like me, but telling the sane from the psychopaths is pretty hard work.

It seems this thread is for those who have never been in love .. but I offer hope.

I've been in love 3 times. Awesome times. Never exchange times.

It is real.

It is worth the wait.



There is NOTHING like being in love. OMGoodness.

So are you saying there is hope for me?

Love is an awful thing to lose. I mean, sure, I could sugar coat my loss with some cheap phrase like "it was better to of loved and lost" or some s***...but ultimately that is all it is, s***. I won't say it is bad, but I certainly won't chalk the experience up as good.

There are few things that can crush a man; taking his pride from him, leaving him to be lost...and tearing his heart out from the back.

Love is a risk, it has always been a risk for both parties involved in the commitment...it is also a very costly investment, one that if it does fail, is very hard to ever make again.

My personal experience is, that once you are "in"..things just really stall...

My work performance is in hell, my usually brain activity gives up on me, and the whole world is going to hell, while I'm standing in the eye of a hurricane.
It doesn't necessary means it's a "good thing" in all aspects, because I let the world swirl and twirl around while things just bounce off of me and I don't care really what is going on. The worst part is that when you are set loose (break up) you are thrown into an entirely different world, that you don't recognize, because while you were locked inside this little bubble with someone you have ignored what was going on around you while "you were gone".




When you brake up with someone and thrown back into the "real" world, is like going to sleep on your fabric softener smelling pillow and comfortable bed, but waking up next morning on this beach shivering and cold and without clothes: