Me too! I have a big crush, but he's not on mingle.

Seems to be the trend..

Oh so many beautiful mingle men..they sure got boring fast didn't they.

No, not really!!

I love the mingle men, so many wonderful men on mingle, I've crushed a few here..

Oh, I've had crushes here before. They come and go. Just none at the moment, however that could change at any time.

I think the "boring" part for me is no one wants to take it to the next step and meet.

I get bored if the guys only want to stay online. I'm always ready to book a flight in-coming or out-going but the other half gets cold feet.

I hate that!

hey chelsea - god to see u!

same - sort of

i have a recent mingle crush- but he;s with someone else (right now anyway)

i have a long time crush on a non mingler - he's one of those "too tough to fall in love" types

I'm doomed............

That's right go ahead and bust on the Mingle dudes. Ya'll always come back for more........

Yeah Melody, fair amount of truth in that. The endless emails do get old and boring after awhile. I had one or two of them here...between that, distance, the ones who just go *poof* and the two times I was stood up... well, that about covers my mingle crushes.

Do you actually tell the dudes that you would like to visit them? And they just run off running like little school boys? Or do they just stay online? Cause if they stay online, then chances are that they are midgets, and they know they don't meet your height requirement!

cuz we loves y'all

I hear you Melody\\I agree, but yanno, I thought u were with someone already for some reason, but I couldn't agree with u more

at some point it has to be real - we need that touch...

You know me Goof, I am aggressive. Yes, I let them know it’s time to meet or move on. They either stop contact or make excuses for staying only within computer and phone contact.

That leads me to believe they are NOT who they say they are – or they are playas!! Player, playa!!

Me? With someone? No!

Yes, Sweetest, we need that touch!

I had to look up "yanno" in the Urban Dictionary".

Hmmmmm. But wouldn't they only be a "playa" if they got to "hit it" and then "quit it"? I am thinking they suffer more from "short dong syndrome". Just a theory.

Maybe the people who have been here for a long time and they write to each other in mails and on the forums are just too used to each other and they don't really think of each other as potential dates anymore. Maybe there was a point when there was a flame, but once you go pass a point, where it just "didn't happen" , now you can't think of them as potential dates anymore.
Once you pass that point and come here and see the same old same old..they are not included in your serious list anymore. You want to get to know someone new

There are so many internet players! They keep a collection of IM friends and favorites and "date" behind the keyboard.

How many times have we seen threads from members saying they were duped by a "boyfriend or girlfriend" they never met but were so in love - and thought they were the only one.

Oh, I'm sure they are deficient in some area or another.

You can always get some platform shoes brother......

Your suggestion is not any different than people who know each other in real life - and slip into the "friend" zone.

Personally, it's either "let's do this" or I move on. I don't want the "friend" zone. I have enough friends that I don't have sex with ...