What do you think? So I am with a girl, but we broke up in about early mid june. We are still talking afterwards to seriously work on what keeps us apart. So she tells me to wait for her so she can just work on it. The mean while she tell me that she loves me and no one will take her from me and vise versa. She has now been on a vacation for over a month and during the middle of her vacation i find out she has cheated on me back in april. The thing is, is that the place where she is now is where she cheated before. So now i figure she told me to wait until after her trip so she can cheat some more, or at least get her last licks before coming back to me. So what do you think about this crap and also what do you think i should do because she doesn't know i know she cheated on me.

You two are broke up. So. To me. That means that the both of you can do as you both please. If she is sleeping with someone. Thats NOT cheating. You two are broke up. But. I believe. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. Move on.

even if they tell you they want to be with you and all that stuff

If she wanted to be with YOU. She wouldnt be sleeping with another.

yea ur right. still sucks though.

Yes, it does. But. From what I see in your picture. It shouldnt be too hard for you to find someone that will be faithfull to you. Just have to search.

i say sleep with her female friends

thanks

We ALL have been CHEATED on at one time in our lives!

Of course Debbie's right.
It is a bitter truth that to live is to feel Pain! :))

saint

I think your being played. There are peeps who like to keep exe's on a string its an ego thing. Dont be a string guy, you deserve better than that. If she was truly in love with you, cheating would have never happened,and she would not be mixed up about being with you.

Jay said it best,... We be on to the next one

My you got darker & bigger!

OO WOWW!!

Have to figure out if you can build trust back up. If you have been planning to get back together then she might be breaking it off with the other guy at this moment. Or not.

But to move on you will have to talk it out with her and start building trust back up - if you both really want it. It will take
time and effort but it is not impossible.

Some find it easier to just move on but whether this is right for
you depends on your specific situation. You might even get counseling
together to get over it.

Good luck however it goes....

Give the heads up and, dump her AZZ. You're no one to played. Am I right? Get some dignity man.

Duuuuuuuude ... wussup ... ? I mean, you want neon lights to spell out the message that you been played? She done put you in a trick bag, my man ... Look, you can keep thinkin' what you want, but the real deal is if you keep goin' down this road instead of tellin' her to make sure the door don't hit her in the asss when she leaves, you will be seriously jacked up by this li'l hustler ... Recognize that you're bein' played and leave her in the dust. Now that you're in possession of all the facts, if you CHOOSE to stay with her, you forfeit any and all rights to bittch about anything else she does FOREVER ... she's already put you on notice - seemsayin' ... ?

She wants you there in case the other relationship doesn't work out. Always nice to have someone else willing to "stand by"... She's got you on "auto pilot".... She's drivin'; you're along for the ride waiting for the finale, which probably is gonna mean, she's gonna tell you she's with someone else.

I wish you the best; but, let go. Do yourself a favor. You're better than that and certainly don't let her play you for a fool. We all have sit-e-ations in life that we're vulnerable to; and, we act as door mats to the other person. No particular reasons; we just let one person into our hearts that will use our emotions until we finally step up to the plate and say, "I've had enough." I sympathize with your dilemma; but, this won't end in your favor. Start dating; get out there and most of all.... look out for you; she's not going to.

I also think you need to re-read what you wrote. It's clear; just accept that. Acceptance is half the battle in relationships that don't work out. REMEMBER: It's not about you or her.... neither of you are bad people.... Doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.... Keep yer chin up and move on.