i get another email from my friend mother, she is really not sure what to do now about her daughter, and i thought i would ask for her on here, my friend is 14, and her mom got a later from the school principal and because my friend has got into trouble again she can not return to school for 2 weeks, she goes to a all girls school, and they did talk about how her daughter was wearing her clothes, showing her thongs on top of her pants and wearing a little to short of skirts,

but now her daughter is acting out bad what the email said, she is refusing to clean her room and taking a bath when told to, and she is talking back to her mother bad calling her names when her mom walks away, and her mother thinks grounding her is just not working any more, and she can't see friends and NO TV and can't play on the computer can't talk on the phone she don't get any money to spend since she is grounded,

Well there really is no way to raise children the right way without completely removing what makes them individual as people. And I think her mother should do what I always wanted. I wanted a few kind words. A, 'Good work today,' and some ice cream. What I always find lacking in other people's relationships with their parents is the little show of kindness. I would suggest what my mother did when I acted up too much. Sit with the troubled girl and work together to set up specific punishments for specific bad behaviours. That way no one can say it's unfair. Never ever ever deviate from the list! Make sure you write it all out too so there's no arguments. And have the mom and daughter sign it. And there should be rewards for doing right because that's how children learn.