My, people are getting rather greedy.

Friend is having a baby. Okay, cool. The baby shower note arrived yesterday, the party is Saturday. Okay. No biggie. I already knew about it, and knew I wouldn't make it. I had sent her a note Wednesday letting her know. Registry is Target, cool, reasonable, I will mail or run by her place and drop the gift off next weekend.

On the back of the card a note. "If you are unable to attend, send gift to address listed" Umm, huh. No "please" there?! And why would I send it to a whole other addy?! No, "sorry if you can't make it.."

Ummm, I'm a bit irked. That just comes across rather rudely.

I have to agree with you... I remember the good ole days where people were really happy to get daipers, bibs, etc...Now it is designer this and designer that I totally understand I really do that mothers want the perfect look for the baby. Fine pay for it... I give gifts from the heart not from a prewritten program.



My neighbors daughter is having twins. They aren't friends or anything recently the Mother let me know what her daughter was still lacking so I could pick what I would like to get her. I was like, excusem me I don't know your daughter except to say hello why would I get them anything No I didn't say that. I just answered politely I will keep that in mind.

As far as the RSVP note I would totally ignore it since you already sent a polite note stating you would be unable to attend give the gift you want to give the child.

Me personally on all new babies I give not only a gift to the baby for the here and now I buy them a savings bond.

True but keep in mind that the mother to be did not send the invitation

New Mom's don't realize how quickly their baby is going to grow out of those designer clothes!! Before she knows it the baby will be a teenager!! Anyways..it does seem a bit rude, and i would send diapers..can't go wrong with diapers.

Sitka, I agree with you on that. I have gotten invitations from total strangers whose mother I met once for various things, baby showers, weddings, graduations. It amazes me how they almost think to milk everyone, and some get extremely specific. I'm like you, I think one gives from the heart, not a specifics.

Delilady, the mom didn't write it, but it still makes her look bad, unfortunately. delegate responsibility, don't give it to someone withou having a clue whats' going on.

LOL! Sherry. Diapers and a couple of childrens books, probably.

Thanks but I gave in dang it I hate guilt manipulation and when I fall for it I really hate it. I saw her a week ago and the daughter was telling me how tight financially she is going to be etc...etc... So I got out the ole scrap yarn and crochet up a couple of blankets. With yeppers the savings bond. I figure if I am giving the gift I am giving what I want to give.

The new mom was so happy for something original....

I do understand about finances being to so tight right now for so many I usually can get around it unless it lives next door or in the family.

Uggghhh ... You've every right to be irked - that is SO superficial, crass and materialistic!

Believe it or not,There are lots of people out there that use showers as a way to get money.The reason alot want the better gifts is the return value!I see it every day in my job.Diappers,lotions and things baby can use is all I fall for.And they return that if they can.
If they want exspensive gifts,they can buy them thairself.For I am not the mother or bride.

I might be a little irked but I'd do what worked for me so it wouldn't bother me past "wow that was rude"... As for the mother, I wouldn't consider it a reflection on her... A lot of showers are planned as surprises and the mother to be has no clue what's being said.. Sure she registers b/c she has an idea she's getting a shower but not always who is in charge of it...

I get from the registry b/c the people I know ask for what they want/need.. I get what I want/like from the list... If it's a close family member or friend I get what they really want, what I feel is really special from the list no matter the cost as long as I can afford it... I've not experienced the "designer only" but I don't consider most brands designer unless it's Calvin, BeBe, Versace, etc.

Me personally. I don't do baby showers. What fun is it watching a baby take a shower?

As a Dad, and having been the recipient of my co-workers generosity, I can only hope that it was not the Mom who sent out the invitations.

My ex and I were very grateful for all the gifts we received.