why is it that very few women who are willing to talk online are reluctant to speak over the phone even if i give them my number.is there some danger that i,m unaware of or are they just afraid of revealing more of themselves.

It makes it more personal .. online can be generic




Seriously though, I definitely wait to chat on the phone because I don't have time with my children to sit and talk.

For me, it keeps the relationship where I want it .. not where someone else wants it. When I'm ready to go further, phone is G2G

How quickly are you giving out your number? Are you actually getting to know them a bit online first before expecting them to talk to you on the phone?

did you ask them to call you?

I personaly dont like chatting on the the internet for 6 months and then finaly talking on the phone once and realize iv waisted my time with them.

I like to wait until I am sure that this is something I want to do....then you get into constant text message, or calls. It becomes almost stalkerish in some cases. I will call when I am ready, willing, and am able to make that choice. If I decide to embark or to pursue something more it will be on my time schedule and not someone forcing me to move things faster because they want to move like lightening. I believe online needs more time and discovery over calling instantly.

I'll wait until we've 'talked' enough online to be comfortable with who we both appear to be - then I'll ask if she'd like my number so she can call ... I don't see much point in asking for her number 'cuz that could be seen as 'pushy' - or 'stalker'-ish ... I will NOT meet anyone unless we've spoken 'in real life' first ... there are a lot of things y' can hear in a voice you'll never hear in a typed screen message ... plus y' get to find out if they really DO have that 'quick sense of humor' they say they have ... and lots of other things that a screen message can never tell ya ...

Welll that's a bit long for sure

chatting online for 6 months is rather long, but if things are going well with the chats (no red flags) the phone is fine, I always block my number at first......

chatting online for 6 months is rather long, but if things are going well with the chats (no red flags) the phone is fine, I always block my number at first......

Very true, because you really never know who is really typing those one liners...

I agree....

Phone numbers lead to addresses, it is only fair that they would be protective over it. There are a lot of dangers associated with dating as a whole and not just online dating, online permits a certain anonymity that cannot be accomplished as easily off-line.

I try to email back and forth as often as I can with someone before giving out my number, I get to know them a bit better, creates better conversation and as much trust as can be accomplished without meeting.

That on top of all the horror stories that people tell about online dating; you know like "I heard about this one lady" and it is always a lady that is in trouble. Online dating has a stigma associated to it as well, it isn't something a lot of people do or would try so they just take the best news story and assume the worse. Craigslist, **** like that, ****ed it all up really.

that was my first thought

After chatting via email, I ask them if they want the digits. If they do, awesome. If not, then I drop em!

My reason for not giving out my phone # after the first email is that my daughter is still living with me. And untill trust is established, I dont need some nut doing a reverse look up and get my address and stop by uninvited.

Make'em beg for your phone number instead of handing it out. Giving out the phone # too quick gives the impression of being desperate or someone who probably does that to all the women on the net.

Well I am not really one to say I'm reluctant to chat on the phone, but with the history of getting harassing phone calls and having to change my number, I'm pretty careful with who I give my number to.

I've never been in a hurry to get some gals ph. If she is interested, and comfortable she'll ask you/ let you know it's OK to call.