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For those of you who are online to find a intimate encounter or who have in the past. I just wonder since it is something so easy to get with no strings attached why do you have to go online to find that? I ask this because i have never gone online to look for that nor have I in person but have been approached many times for that in person.and I dont act like that is something i am looking for either..Plain and simple.. If that is something I was looking for I would not waste my time doing it online... would be much easier in person to do.Pretty sure too that I could have my pick and could find a new one eveyrday if i wanted to.. So why do people do this online? some of us don't find it so easy to find a NSA encounter. at least not without compromising our standards a great deal. not that it's something that i'm looking for, but i wouldn't necessarily be against it if the opportunity arose with someone i found attractive. . . . . . . |
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Believe it or not I do understand sex addictions..I have actually gone to counseling for it, though i do not have that problem.. I had a partner yrs ago that did... However he did not go on the internet
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So why do people do this online? It's cheaper.. You go to bars you spend money.. You go to movies you spend money.. Basically you go anywhere you might spend money,, You stay home you don't have to rent a hotel.. You both at home (or wherever ya at) & you can do whatever ya want.. I would try the online thing as a ice breaker but if i'm feeling you enough i would definately want to meet you.. |
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For those of you who are online to find a intimate encounter or who have in the past. I just wonder since it is something so easy to get with no strings attached why do you have to go online to find that? I ask this because i have never gone online to look for that nor have I in person but have been approached many times for that in person.and I dont act like that is something i am looking for either..Plain and simple.. If that is something I was looking for I would not waste my time doing it online... would be much easier in person to do.Pretty sure too that I could have my pick and could find a new one eveyrday if i wanted to.. So why do people do this online? some of us don't find it so easy to find a NSA encounter. at least not without compromising our standards a great deal. not that it's something that i'm looking for, but i wouldn't necessarily be against it if the opportunity arose with someone i found attractive. . . . . . . |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter?
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Usually friends with benefits like each other. Sometimes folks don't want to like the person they're having sex with.
I'm not one of those people. Haha. But that's the mindset some people have. |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? fwb seems to mean that you know the person and while neither of you want the ties that come with a relationship, you're comfortable enough with each other to see to each others sexual needs. NSA can be the same thing. an intimate encounter is more like a one night stand. . . . |
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Usually friends with benefits like each other. Sometimes folks don't want to like the person they're having sex with. I'm not one of those people. Haha. But that's the mindset some people have. |
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In my personal experience friends with benefits always ends with somebody getting hurt. It's only natural that one of the people involved will be more emotionally attached.
I guess the no strings attached hook-up is a pretty mutual exchange. |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? fwb seems to mean that you know the person and while neither of you want the ties that come with a relationship, you're comfortable enough with each other to see to each others sexual needs. NSA can be the same thing. an intimate encounter is more like a one night stand. . . . such as an intimate encounter- string attached is "this is only a one night stand" |
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In my personal experience friends with benefits always ends with somebody getting hurt. It's only natural that one of the people involved will be more emotionally attached. I guess the no strings attached hook-up is a pretty mutual exchange. |
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These kind of guys probably get rejected a lot. So doing it online is probably easier than in person. If someone has a lot of luck in picking up people in person, then I'm willing to bet they're probably doing that. Going by the way people try it on this kind of site, they don't have that luck in person. I'm sure we've all received emails from those looking for just sex. How many got angry/insulting when you turned them down? To me, that shows they're frustrated because things aren't working for them. If it was working, they wouldn't react that way. |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? I don't see a one night stand as being romantic at all. |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? I don't see a one night stand as being romantic at all. |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? fwb seems to mean that you know the person and while neither of you want the ties that come with a relationship, you're comfortable enough with each other to see to each others sexual needs. NSA can be the same thing. an intimate encounter is more like a one night stand. . . . such as an intimate encounter- string attached is "this is only a one night stand" i think the difference is a one night stand isn't normally pre-arranged as such. basically, you just don't call the other person afterward and they're left to figure iit out on their own. . . . |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? I don't see a one night stand as being romantic at all. Maybe you mean intimate encounter? Not really romantic. |
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so do you all think a fwb is the same thing then? or is a romantic encounter a one night stand and a fwb a on going sexual encounter.. or is there more to a fwb than just sex as compared to a sexual encounter? I don't see a one night stand as being romantic at all. Maybe you mean intimate encounter? Not really romantic. |
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I don't even do it off-net. I'm done with that a long time ago..it makes me feel worse after, or does nothing to me. All I got from such encounters were confusing entanglements, false ideas, and sooner or later someone is gonna get hurt, because someone will start to take things seriously or try going further when there isn't anything going on really.
Maybe some will make sense of this, others won't. |
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I don't even do it off-net. I'm done with that a long time ago..it makes me feel worse after, or does nothing to me. All I got from such encounters were confusing entanglements, false ideas, and sooner or later someone is gonna get hurt, because someone will start to take things seriously or try going further when there isn't anything going on really. Maybe some will make sense of this, others won't. Having been the one that everyone came to to vent at afterwards, I'd fully agree with this! I've never known anyone who was truly happy with themselves or the other person afterwards and could keep it loose and relaxed like the idea is supposed to be. |
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For those of you who are online to find a intimate encounter or who have in the past. I just wonder since it is something so easy to get with no strings attached why do you have to go online to find that? I ask this because i have never gone online to look for that nor have I in person but have been approached many times for that in person.and I dont act like that is something i am looking for either..Plain and simple.. If that is something I was looking for I would not waste my time doing it online... would be much easier in person to do.Pretty sure too that I could have my pick and could find a new one eveyrday if i wanted to.. So why do people do this online? The first thing that popped into my head was they're married or in some kind of committed relationship, and lookin for a little somethin' on the side, or because of the animity, for whatever reason, of pursuing this on-line rather than in their own 'home town', where they work and know people and word can spread. |
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