I just asarted this whole dating site thing and my roommate started the same time I did. They already have tons of replys and people just tripping over themselves to get a word in. Me; I've sent out like thirty detailed messages and not even so much as a wink comes my direction. Am I ugly or something?

Somehow I don't think LOOK's have anything to do with it!

Maybe Alice hasn't read your profile

R U looking for us HOT OLDER women that can kick ur BUTT..........

You say in your profile that you write dark poetry...post some in the creative forum and get to know some of the other 'dark' writers...

No, your not ugly, nobody is 'ugly'.

Alice?

read his headline

Welcome to Mingle

Consider changing your main picture. It’s not very flattering. Since that is the first impression members get, you might try a clearer picture with a smile.

Sending unsolicited emails can be off-putting. Most members don’t like getting nudged or get emails from strangers – the other factor is you may not be reaching active members. If you post in the forums and get to know the active members you increase your chances by a great deal!

It takes a lot of time to meet a quality person. The last successful relationship I had took me 3 months to discover his profile and another 7 months before we actually met. Be patient!

could not agree more!!!!!!!!!!!!! i dislike nudges from ones i never talked to before! its like no effort... which tells me they would not put out any effort...now for the email part i dont mind.. but dont sound like a bot or cut and paste your profile.... blah!!!!!! and give substance something to reply back to to build a conversation.. not just a "hi" or "whats up?" or "how are you?" omg lol!

I think downtoearthdebbie.. gave you solid advice.. most the time it does take a while.. love is worth waiting for.. good luck..

I think what you've written in your profile is great! Maybe add another pic or two.

As far as nudges and e-mails, it's really a personal preference as to whether one likes to recieve them or not, so if you're comfortable sending them, by all means do so. They are features met to make connecting and communicating easier and a bit less awkward.

The forums are great way to get to know people and give them a chance to see what you're all about, so stick around and make some friends!

i did miss your header.. "looking for Alice" that makes it look like perhaps you already know someone named alice and you are searching the net for her.... and like lil bug said if you have more pics that is always a good thing as well..

No I don't know anyone named alice. I'm looking for alice in wonderland. She is random and creative, so weird, and knows exactly who she is. I want someone similar

actually yea that would be pretty fun lol just know my butt is not easy to kick

I did think of that. It's just that my roommate got like ten in an afternoon. It's just the luck of the draw I guess.
I suppose I could try a better profile picture, only problem is that taking pictures of myself is one of few areas I find it so hard to be creative.

I posted a few to see if anyone would read them... no one did

Totally got "Looking for Alice" .. nice one

I think your profile is well-written and explains cool, random points about "you"

I would definitely add more pics giving potential interests a bit more "visual" idea of your personality.

also ..

What in the world is a "Custom Harvester"



Besides that .. be patient. And don't send too long of emails .. I mean if you met someone in person you wouldn't pull out some long letter and start reading it right?

Find girls you are interested in via their profile descriptions and bring up a point they mention. We love it when guys actually READ our profiles, not just drool at pictures

awww i was breaking you in! i do think your profile is very well written... JMO I always have to take my own pics too.. its definitely not easy

I drive a combine for a living. Ever seen the movie cars? Frank is a combine. as far as you messaging advise, that's exactly what I do. This message board thing is awesome. at least this way I have someone to talk to lol there's like eight people on here just giving me advise... pretty sweet Thanks to everyone