I understand that sometimes our former relationships did work out , but why is it when we hook up with someone new their standards are way higher than what they lived through with their former couple.
I don't think it's fair when not given a chance to prove yourself.
I don't expect or want things easy , but there is got to be a more reasonable way.

When you went through what you define as your own personal version of h ell, you are determined to not go there again, so you set your requirements ant what you define as heaven. Anyone who expects to find the "perfect" match for themselves is deluding themselves badly. No one is perfect, and conversely, no one is totally imperfect. The secret is to set your standards high, and then compromise them as necessary, without "selling out," to meet the person who most accurately reflects your standards. Those who are uncomromising are not worth giving the time of day to because that is an indication of what a relationship with them will be like. JMAO