I sent her a note expressing my appreciation for what she wrote and the way she wrote it. Simple and direct.

I'm long past the point where I have any intentions of chasing anybody. As you say, a well-worded profile is no guarantee of compatibility, although it could indicate the potential for communication.

But from what I've seen, my concept of what constitutes "compatibility" was driven to extinction sometime around 1999. I'm totally willing to be proven wrong, but I really don't see that happening!

Then again how much people on here really read profiles

I don't write anything about myself on my profile . never the one to talk about myself self praise is no recommendation but not that i would Praise myself but i won't put myself down either
Then again how much people on here really read profiles

oh, i do. it's the ONLY thing that dictates whether or not i'll write to a person if there's been no interaction in a forum environment. i've even written to people with no photo, just because i'd enjoyed the profile so much.

if there are no words, what does one say? 'nice photo'? those messages get an automatic delete from me.

by the way lex, i'd, return an email that was sent complimenting me on the way my profile was written. it's one of the nicest compliments i could get. here's hoping she writes back. and doesn't have kids. or want them. and is creative. and doesn't want to try to change you.

writing a profile IS a way for them to find out stuff about me, isn't it?

i'd rather someone exclude me as dateable by reading what it is i've written, rather than waste both our times by this sort of dialogue:

'hi, how are you?'
'good, thanks. and you?'
'so tell me about yourself'
'well what do you want to know?'
'what interests you?'

what interests me is reading what someone else is interested in so that i know whether or not i'll share any interests with them at all.

i WANT to be judged based on what i've written. that way, i'll have people write to me who are attracted to my sense of style and character rather than those who are interested in the surface stuff only.

i'm not trying to be argumentative. we all get to complete our profiles in the manner in which we choose. i'm just trying to show why 'i' want a profile that's full of information and why, if i'm looking to date, i put as much in mine as possible.

i've had guys write to me saying that that my profiles were too long so there's different strokes for different folks. we're all attracted to something different.

i find it hard to believe that anyone would have interests that not one other soul would like as well.

third grade peepee and poopoo jokes....

OMG!! THAT'S why my parents had me skip from 2nd to 4th

i've written some good profiles before.

it's always long and full enough that there is something for someone to find something to write to me about.

it's always reflective of my personality, a little bit silly, a little bit assertive, and lists some of my likes and dislikes, who i usually find attractive, what i do for a living, what i do on the side, and i post a couple of photos, usually a close-up and one full-length.

i still get men writing to me telling me what's wrong with it, what's wrong with me, how i'm too stuck up and rude for not wanting to reply to 'hi, how are you-type' emails. albeit i think my writing style relays a bit of snobbery to it, i never come across that way in personal email unless i'm put on the defensive.

if i don't set the age grouping to between a certain range, i usually get asked to exchange some photos.

i just gave up. if i were looking to date again, i don't think that i'd ever use a dating site to meet someone. i think i would just rely on old-fashioned chance meetings that hopefully come with a bit of comfortable rapport and chemistry.

I bet you'd rethink that Lisa, if push came to shove. Because you would close the door on the medium where you met the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE So it became the Yellow Brick Road

i'm very thankful that i met robin and, as you know, we did meet on one of these sites. we are completely compatible and suit each other quite well.

i'm just saying that if i had to do it all again, i don't think i'd choose a dating site as the way to go. with my luck, he'd end up on a different continent rather than just a different country.

while i don't doubt there are serious and normal people out there looking for true love, i've come across mostly wackoos and idiots so, unfortunately, the majority would win in this case.

If thats all you wrote, I betting 50/50 she doesn't write you back. Sorry Lex, yet for me, it takes a little more than that to get a persons attention for very long, and then hold it. If you want to get someones attention you're gonna have to get up and really put yourself back out there, just like the rest of us...esp when you think there's someone who might be worthy of it. You guys got all the colorful feathers, remember? Show 'em. We've all been hurt and rejected, thats why we're here. Put your best face forward, humble yourself and get IN the game, you critque but won't play anymore.

I would never date someone who didn't find poop and fart jokes funny. Poop is always funny. Unless it's on me, in which case it's still going to be hilarious to someone else.