Of the movie when Humprey Bogart says about Lauren Bacall coming to where he is, something along the lines "of all the 2 bit joints in the world, she shows up here?'
My assistant resigned as of the beginning of April due to serious health issues, and it's been exhausting. Was telling my ex, who decided to retire/ not retire/ retire/ etc. about the position.
Next thing I know, he's applied for the job! Very unsettling there for a couple of weeks, last night we talked and his SO is moving in with him and retiring also. (they're both 63 respectively) There is NO work in Nevada, esp. real estate- which he got into about ten years ago. I was greatly relieved to find out the info that they are going to live together.
Am supposed to interview him tomarrow, along with my boss.
Anyway...am feeling like Bogart ...of all the tin joints in this place...why mine? When I finally got past him, got my life together. BTW he always had 'close' women friends when we were together so it's nothing new to me, except am more irritated by this than thought at first.
Any serious input would be greatly appreciated.

Casablanca and because it's a small world sometimes

Waaaay too small I think sometimes. Thought we were finished, guess not. sigh.

Excellent movie.

How would you feel?

yes, all time. This is for real tho...

depends...

if it is over it's over. yanno...

I'd make him get me coffee!!

it is, but talking, asking q's about why have gotten some answers that are like the past. None thinking (or hiding actually)- why are you interested, what would you do if we had a difference in ideas...I will be his supervisor, he said "well..I'd just quit". My tiredness is gettinmg un the way of being objective. Closed the door a year and 1/2 again, looking to see him as a applicant but the answers made me wonder...

I think it would suck but as long as all extenuating issues have been resolved then it should be fine.

Flavoured, yes?

It should be, but worrying...will we resort to old behaviors when it comes to issues or things getting done. Will be his boss...know thats funny but .....?

Its a lot easier to get over and move on from heartache and pain when you do not have to face every day the cause of the pain.

Just seeing your Ex is going to be bringing up memories that will remind you of the reason you are no longer with him.

I personally feel like crap knowing that everyday I would have to " put on the work face" and deal with the same attitude I got from him when we were married. Not an enticement to go to work every day is it?

it is not appropriate for an-ex to report to the other partner in a work setting. too much baggage and cause for conflicts, imo.

if the organization is not such that a different reporting scheme is possible then i would say that it is a non-starter unfortunately. opens a huge can of worms. best that one of the parties find another job elsewhere. really.

your gut don't lie on this one!

Does your boss know he's your ex? It would be uncomfortable to say the least. Boundries would need to be set.He would have to understand you are the boss. Bring it up in the interview, ask him how he would repsond to you being the supervisor. Let himspellit out to the main bossin front of you,so there can be no misunderstandings.

There was alot of pain, for both of us.. I'm thinking the same thing. Things resolved have been so...yet there are tinges of memories. The best thing about this is that he will leave 2 hours before I get there, but will have to work together on Saturdays.
Saw the 'atttiude' at last, thats what has ot me here writing about it. I'm like WTHeck? Finally got my life in order, healed moved on and then this? He has been very generous to assist me getting on my feet since the divorce and now that he is finacially in a place where I can help him, the feelings are so mixed with the mixed stuff coming through No, it's not my feelings just wondering why....

Yes, she does know. Thats a excellent idea about bringing it up in tomarrow, 'how will you feel if I ask you to do something that you don't agree with, how would you handle it?'. My Sup has met him , before we divorced. I don't understand why she thinks it's game. Perhaps we all are so tired fromtaking care of both shifts that she's happy someone has applied. I realize the whole decsion is really in my hands after she asked me how I felt and to think about it for a few days. 3 days later said felt at peace with it, then the last 2 days alot of angst.
I know...sounds like soap opera stuff...yet such twists in life. Apparently we're not done with something.

Don't hire him. Don't put the both of you in an uncomfortable situation.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o43JHFPefmY

(except it was Ingrid Bergman, not Lauren Bacall)

Casablanca, yes. Lauren Bacall, no. It was Ingrid Bergman. Here's the exact quote:

“Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine.”