It is so easy to say I'm sorry when people do bad things but it is a lot harder to really apologize.

It sounds like you are married to Peter griffin or Homer Simpson and not in the comical sort of way, more like they are self centered, self indulgent, blithering idiots who do stupid things for a rush and hurt everyone around them.

I think you need to do some homework on the topic of Co-Dependency and also social dependency.

It sounds like you are caught in a dependency cycle you don't know how to face or deal with.

Don't confuse your daughter's comfort with her well being. If you are miserable she will pick up on that. It will bite you in the azz later. Staying with someone who makes you miserable is not the answer for you or your daughter!

VERY well said.

If empty words are what makes or breaks you, then it's only your ego telling you why you should do the things you think you should do...


Regrets are useless, so use your time wisely grasshoppa!

thank u master....i must go and be free like a bird.lol.I MUST FLY....
U know,I wasn't like this before I met him.It's like somewhere along the way...I lost myself and who I was.I was single for a long time before I met him and DID do everything myself,I was very independent and aware...........I don't know what the Hell happened.SOMEONE SLAP ME AROUND A LITTLE!!!!!!

smack smack smack smack

LOL

I think I just did "virtually" slap you!

Raise your daughter in a safe environment with positive, ambitious role models. How will she learn to be a functional adult if her parenting role models are not?

Teach her to be stronger than you are now.

I wish you the very best!

be the strong one that you know
as feeling low and alone is makeing you
weak. be truthful to yourself
as where you will learn who you
truly are
as you have gone through a rat race that doesnt need
to be
as you can be stronger than you know
you need the inspiration to go forward
as where you can let the sun rise again
raise your head wit pride
and respect yourself once more
without fright
hang on to your little one with
all your might

You cannot let your child make this decision, you have to. She may not understand it now, but she will when she gets her “happy” mother back. You being miserable; is having an effect on her life, she just doesn’t know it or can’t see yet. Relationships are complicated adult issues, yes she will miss him and yes it will be hard on her, but I think you know it would be best in the long run. That is something that children cannot fathom, it is something they are not capable of understanding because, they live in the here and now.

If he wishes to continue his relationship with her, great; she can still enjoy time with him. If he cuts the ties with her (as is often the case) then you will have to help her get through it, but either way, mommy is the one constant. I really hope he can put his pride aside and be there for her, it is tough being a kid and going through a break-up…I know this very well. It took me a year and half to be able to see the boy I raised for 9 years, after my ex and I split. (A fight well worth the trouble) I was the only father he ever knew and it was very hard on him.

Now for you…I do not know you, nor would I pretend to. However, no one should ever settle. We have but one go ‘round in this life and as we make our way we learn the things that are important. Many times they turn out to be the simple things. The things most of us take for granted. Being treated the way we wish to be, is one of the keys. It is one of the things that we can control. It plays an important role in our happiness. The knowing that we are someone else’s “one” goes a long way to forging our paths. You do deserve to experience love, real love and I say, if you haven’t and you are not now, you should make room for it.

You might want to look into domestic violence counseling in your area. Just because someone doesn't hit you, doesn't mean they were not abusive.