why is it that on all the sites i have gone to i find girls who say "i dont care how a man looks but how he treats me" and yet when i talk to them they just either ignore me or tell me im not their type??????? I have had 2 girlfriends and i am almost 20. only 2 women actually backed it up. can anyone explain it to me??????

You're not their type?

Believe it or not there are actually people that are 'out of your league' per se.

yea and both my girlfriends were out of my league. thats what im talking about. The ones that tick me off r the ones who say we dont care and yet they do..... im not the most attractive guy in the world, in fact im near the bottom, but i have a good heart and thats all i see when i look at a girl. who they are.

Who are you trying to convince? For the most part looks are the foundation of dating, you wouldn't spend you life with a gargoyle if it had a good heart...at least I hope not, they bite.

Of course, you could be a rarity...like me. However, we are but a small margin of the population. Plus, if you put it together mathmatically according to things you would like...we're screwed over by percentages. I get bored a lot, and I'm good with math.

Just an example, the age range of 22-35, high school graduate, and a job...gives me just under a one in a million chance. Which, with the average lifespan of 75 years old...I would have to go on a date three times a week for the next 50 odd years. Now of course, everyone is going to come in here and bash my logical math problem, and there are anomalies such as the next person I date could be the one I stick with for the rest of my life...but I think we all know the likelyhood of that is about squat.

Best of luck.

well as to the gargoyle thing, the first girl i fell in love with had been in a car accident and her face was badly damaged. i honestly couldnt find her attractive. but that didnt matter to me. i just loved being with her. unfortunatly someone else saw her good side before i did and now she is gone, but my feelings for her definatly are not.

Well, like I said...we are in the minority. Refer to the above math equation, you can even plug in your own age range. Contrary to advice on love, it isn't easy, and it will not suddenly appear because of a good heart.

Life is always hard, never easy...you can thank Leon The Professional for those words of wisdom.

Best advice...find something that you like to do, beit a sport or card game...just a hobby. Stick with it, eventually someone will come around with similiar interests, and you can probably hit it off with them.*

*This statement does not necessarily mean someone will come around, FearandLoathing cannot be held liable for anything that might not go according to one's plan.

i think that even though physical attraction is an important component in whether or not a person will be interested, i do also believe that attraction begins on the inside and grows outward and that people become more beautiful to you once you start to love them.

i've dated many a guy and i look back and wonder 'why?' and come up with that they had charming and bold personalities with which to interest me. from there, the physical attraction grew.

of course, no one wants to date people who we don't find physically good looking at all. as well, if the email is a one-liner or doesn't offer much in the way of starting a conversation, sometimes it doesn't matter how handsome one is.

hello babyyyyyyyyy

case in point

What's up pumpkin...........

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get used to it. i'm dealing with it and i'm 36. people say one thing even when they mean something else. bottom line, you can't make someone like you. you can pay them if you have the money.



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C'mon. That was too good to be true. That was your smurf, wasn't it?

Here's what I believe: Lots of people are really concerned about coming across as shallow or superficial, so they write stuff that they think will make them look good to other people. So they write "Looks don't matter" or "It's what's on the inside that counts," when in reality they don't believe any such thing.

It's the same with the ones who write "I'm looking for an intelligent guy" -- in my experience, usually they're not. But they think it may reflect badly on them if they write "I want an idiot I can lead around by the nose, someone who will do whatever I tell him."

I usually just assume the "Law of Opposites" -- whatever they SAY they're looking for, they really want the opposite.

if ya really want a relation,get out in the real world and start meeting people.


someone don't like ya,that's it they don't.cant make someone like or love ya when they don't.




your young why not life first before you think about all this.
something I have now learned is no matter who you are,what you look like,someone out there is looking for someone just like you.


although I am single and have been for 6 years now.the above statement is 100% true

listen, this is some advice coming from an old grannie.

having a good heart is very important. but women these days, like that quality, along with good looks. u r a cutie. but i would suggest that u do go on a diet, and lose a few. where is this coming from?
i myself have been a little beefer in younger days, and people can't seem to look beyond the weight to that good heart of yours. they could not c my good heart, they saw my fat asp.

take up country western line dancing. i know that mickey gilley still rules in texas, and 2 stepping is quite alive.

then, get yourself a horse, and ride the thing. that will help you build muscle power, and then go out and look for a woman.

don't forget your education. take a class, and educate yourself on something u know nothing about. the women will come.

we lose a few we love, and we gain a few we don't love. u r only 20...u have the rest of your life ahead of u.

report back and tell us how it is going.