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Topic: Ok, what's the difference - really...
RowBaby Joined Fri 01/22/10 Posts: 11819	Thu 03/11/10 03:38 PM
There ARE feelings. It is "i like you and trust you as long as you realize it ain't going any further". I completely agree with you... I think when RowBaby mentioned 'not having feelings' she simply meant to say 'not having deep romantic feelings' or something like that. (Apologies for putting words in your mouth, RowBaby). You are right, that's what I meant. Romantic feelings and/or love.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Thu 03/11/10 03:39 PM Edited by buttons on Thu 03/11/10 03:40 PM
all the people i knew or know in a fwb.. arent or werent sleeping around with others.. and not saying all fwbs are like that.. just saying not all are sleeping around with others is all..

RowBaby Joined Fri 01/22/10 Posts: 11819	Thu 03/11/10 03:40 PM
If it's a monogamous relationship, there HAS to be feelings. A monogamous FWB? Yeah right....so in other words they couldn't find someone else to use too? You are assuming that they are 'using' each other, and assuming that they would want to have sex with others if only they could. I agree that many FWB relationships are callous and selfish, but not all are 'using' each other (any more than people in 'normal' relationship 'use' each other). And of course they might simply choose to limit the number of sexual partners to one. There are many possible reasons for this. This is true too. And there is always the possibility that one might have hopes that the other will come to want a relationship eventually.

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Thu 03/11/10 03:43 PM
There is nothing wrong with a couple friends getting together and knocking boots.......

TxsSun Joined Wed 05/20/09 Posts: 14582	Thu 03/11/10 04:08 PM
There is nothing wrong with a couple friends getting together and knocking boots....... I like to knock boots. Got some?

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Thu 03/11/10 04:09 PM
There is nothing wrong with a couple friends getting together and knocking boots....... ...especially if there's mud on them...

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 03/11/10 04:21 PM
Why can't a 'FWB' relationship have feelings? If it's a monogamous relationship, there HAS to be feelings. The belief that a relationship of ANY kind, 'FWB' or not, can long exist without feelings is just incorrect ... and as far as 'hurt', that can happen in ANY relationship. It's not exclusive to 'FWB'. Ever see a marriage end in divorce ... ? What's your definition of a friends with benefits "relationship?" It seems to be different than what most here are talking about.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Thu 03/11/10 04:26 PM
1. booty call or one nighter = no feelings. just sex 2. FWB = has feelings but as friends 3. relationship = more than just friend feelings

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Thu 03/11/10 04:29 PM
You are assuming that they are 'using' each other, and assuming that they would want to have sex with others if only they could. Nope... not really.

Kings_Knight Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 3718	Thu 03/11/10 04:53 PM
There is nothing wrong with a couple friends getting together and knocking boots....... I like to knock boots. Got some? Did I mention I have boots ... ?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 03/11/10 05:15 PM
1. booty call or one nighter = no feelings. just sex 2. FWB = has feelings but as friends 3. relationship = more than just friend feelings Right, but the friend feelings doesn't equal a monogamous relationship. It's two friends having sex without the romantic feelings/relationship.