My daughter, Emma, will be three on June 10. One day, she wouldn't take a bath so I counted. If she wasn't in the tub by 3, I would spank her. I said, "1..... 2......" then before I could say 3, she said, "3!" I spanked her so hard, I feel guilty.

What's funny about that?
Now if she had said
'I won't be three until next week"
It would not only be funny, it would also show what a smart little girl she is.
Spanking a young child of that age for any reason should not happen anyway.

you can spank me on the count of 3

Wow...Someone likes pushing buttons

Haha! Child abuse!

It's funny because they'll suffer endlessly for the sins of their parents.

Yeah. But NOT at that age.

Spanking teaches children that violence is the way to make people do what you want. Spanking teaches fear in place of respect. Spanking makes a child feel how a victim feels when they have been violently attacked by a perpetrator of an assault.

Until we learn a better way to teach our children .....

I can speak on it because I was spanked, if that is what you call an unexpected back hand that makes your mouth bleed, or a spatula to the head, or hairbrush, or whatever was handy. Or the pulling my pants down bare butt getting on my knees and waiting for my dad to come in with the belt for the my three lashings unless I moved and then I got more.....

I tried like hell not to spank my children but I would revert to what I was taught in pinch. So when we stop spanking our children, they will not spank theirs and a society will learn how to teach others without violence.

First of all, I am sorry you went through that. Secondly, I was whipped with a belt as a child and it was horrible. I'm 43 now and still remember it like it was yesterday. All I can say is I don't judge others, but my personal experience has scarred me for life.

unbelievable.. and my kids thought i was mean when i got to 3 and just put them into the tub... and because she counted to 3 wow! that is your kind of praise for a 3 yrs old? ... i hope the next time she says three that its child protective services is the reward for knowing what comes after 2 ! now that would be funny yet a joy at the same time..ps id love to spank your @ss!

I honestly don't know what to say to this. I'm stunned. You only feel guilty? Have you thought about some anger management counseling?

got my azz spanked plenty of times. I actually deserved it more than what I got. And my parents are social workers
I didn't turn out violent, mean, cruel, or any of those things. Nor do I believe that violence is the way to make people do things I want them to do.
I spanked my daughter on her bottom when she was younger. But now, I don't have to. I haven't had to lay a finger on her in years. We have our arguements but we get thru them.
Would I have spanked her hard at 2 years old for this offense? No. I reserved spankings for more important issues, like trying to shove a fork in a light socket. Now that got her azz spanked! But you know what? She NEVER did it again.
If you spank and spank and spank all the time for everything, kids even become immune to that.
Pick your battles.

I spanked my daughters a few times, more out of my own frustration, when I realized that, I stopped.

i am the mother of 5 boys. 3 of my own with my ex-husband and 2 from his previous marriage. I can tell you that I was completely challenged by these kids. I did spank them when they were small, a couple of times, for cutting class 3 months at a time, for cutting the cord on the fan when it was plugged in, but I realized that I was also spanked when I was younger. I made a promise to myself that in order to be a good parent, I would do everything opposite that my mother did. I stopped spanking. I did something more meaningful. I took their money, no allowance, no playstation, or atari, no friends in the house and especially no girl friends. they learned pretty quickly, today they have their own children, do not spank. some of them are in the army, going to afghanistan this year for 16 months, call me at least 3 times a week, with complete respect and love in their hearts for me. I am very lucky to have had them in my life. I would have missed out on so much had i instilled in them the fear of a spanking. just saying....

No i agree spank kids wil not make them mean crule. i waz beat wit a stick or anythin my parents had in there head i reamber wen i spilt milk my mom beat my azz wit a buket for it bustd my had to have 32 stichis

Spanking should be spanking and not "hitting".
I have raised three children and they were spanked.
They knew WHY they were spanked, they knew I loved them when I was done spanking them and I had mom rules for spanking:

1. set amounts of licks according to severity

2. proper way to spank. (not chasing them with a stick swinging)

3. Always listen to my kids.

Spanking was a last resort for me but my kids will tell you - they have never been in trouble with the law. I have son a whos and Airman
just back from Iraq and a daughter whos a college grad, my youngest is Top student in high school graduating in June- They are all gratefull they had discipline and their friends have told me many times they wish their parents would set limits for them.

I have been a teaching parent in childrens homes and naturally we didnt spank those kids-
However you can see the difference the effect board of instruction has when applied to the seat of knowledge...LOL

LOL UDK MY PARENTS THEY PHYCO'S YO FO SHO.

Ive never received a spanking, so does a real spanking hurt?

Spanking only works (shows results later) before the age of five.

By "spanking" I mean a LIGHT tap on the diapered bottom, not beating the hell of the poor kid!

Also, before the age of two, when they reach for dangerous things (dangerous for THEM!) a LIGHT tap on the hand will make them understand.

A parent should NEVER spank while mad and spend frustration on the child. Children will make us mad as hell, THAT's the time NOT to spank.

I was beat and belted and slapped and spit upon by my father but did I turn violent and disrespectful? NO. I'm a peacemaker and always try to calm people down when there's a heated argument.

I have children (how many is none of your business) and they're all employed, going to university and being productive member of society.

Spanking works. It's all in the manner you do it and when.

I changed the age of two to five after rereading it...yep, I'm not perfect.

The thing is its all down to what you call spanking if its a quick slap To go oi I told you and your not doing it all the time of you only do it like 2 3 times a year I'll say then they go oh **** I really need to do as I'm told if you do it every day or a few times a week then its normal you want something you smack people and like using a belt or something is just wrong. I remember many years ago with my ex's little one he was 4 at the time and I was putting mouse traps down and I said to him you don't touch these and he kept looking at this one and honestly I sat there and watched him touch it it shocked him and I went do you see why I said don't touch it and he just smiled and went yeah and never went near em again and whenever I said to him don't touch things he would listen.