So I just started using this site again and in the last two days I have been back I have gotten more hits from guys from different states and even countries than in my own backyard. My question is why would you try to get into a relationship with people who arent close to you??? Maybe they are just trying to be friends but I still find it odd I guess.

To be REAL,,hey,,IF YOUR face LIGHTS my life,,,I WOULD WRITE YA IN A HEART BEAT,,if your personality matched your face that drew me,,,ID BE TALKING ABOUT MEETING YOU THERE...

So,,,its really ALL in what clicks for the both of you!!

And MANY long distance love affairs here,,,have married....

Welcome here,,and good luck......

I found my boyfriend all the way across the country. I'd hate to think what I would have missed if I hadn't talked to him.

Yes!

<------------------ Florida and California

My first long term girlfriend was from Oklahoma and I from Maryland. We met on ICQ way back in the 90s and it lasted almost a year. These things have a way of working or not working depending on the people involved.

totally not trying to be a jackass on this comment i was just curious and congrats on all those long distance relationships working

Good question! I'm always impressed with those who can do it. Wishful thinking perhaps?

And maybe how much each person is willing to try? I'm assuming finances give one some freedom. And strength of common interests?

YOU didnt come-off to me as anything close to a jackass with your question,,,,,it was simply your real question! COOL!!
And please dont think our answers had hidden meanings,wink,,

Hell,,when I first came on here, the closet lady to me was five hundred miles away,,,,,,YOU had to THINK long-distance,,just to be looking at all...lol,lol.lol



And Melody,,,,VERY COOL,,YOU GO GIRL,,oh and GUY,,wink,lol

DRINKS ON ME

I totally understand what you're saying. I never hear from anyone closer than 897,000 miles away....! I think people feel "safer" when they can comfortably assume there's no chance of ever meeting the person in real life.

I definitely agree with that.

Gee I never thought of that *duh me*

It's the safety in numbers scenario -- as long as the numbers are very big, and correspond to the distance between you and the other person.

Makes it hard for those of us who would actually like to meet somebody....!

Chat Global, Date Local.

What he said.

Thanks Terry!

I didn't think LilBug came off as a jackazzz either.

I guess you never know where your heart will take you

I've had many long distance relationships, one even with a woman from Japan. She came to live with me many times, and we'd be married today if the eastern culture didn't freak her out so much. Long distance relationships (marriages) statistically last longer because you know that the other person REALLY loves you, since they have gone through so much to be with you. With local relationships the other person can end the relationship in heartbeat because it's so easy to find someone else locally. The worst part of a long distance relationship is that it's hard when you want to be with the other person but you can't, but then absence makes the heart grow fonder....

You're right Lex there are people like this...

My best friend here,,told me that her self,wink, joking.
She said I think Ill write to him to be a pen-pal,,because he lives far enough away,,I dont have to worry about him ever wanting to really meet me....Wink,,,,
SO YES,,THIS is very true with some folks....

For guys, online romance is about starting out with baby steps - they first just need a female somewhere to acknowledge they're alive.