I have found that my girlfriend skills are lacking.

I cannot seem to listen to them tell me every wrong thing their men do to them and not give advice. They don't want any advice they just want to dump all the negativity onto me and go on about their business.

When I give advice like "leave him the hell alone if he is going to treat you bad", I get the old brushoff after.

So I guess I have to join the men on this issue.

I do understand men, how hard it is to just listen and not give any advice when your woman complains to you about stuff.

Same thing here, both for guy friends and gal friends. I get to listen to both sides, but no one wants ideas or answers or thoughts. They just want to vent.

Now I politely shrug and say, "when you decide you seriously want an answwer, and will listen, I'll help". They have to reach their "Ah Ha!" moment.

You cant fix it so shut up...

Sometimes people have to learn the hard way...tough love if you will.

people that know me know that if you are going to tell me, then be prepared to get my 2 cents in. if they decide not to listen, then it's on them.

But, I was gonna gripe about my girl being an ungrateful selfish b*tch. She makes me do all the cooking and cleaning. She makes a point of being naked when I have company over and licks herself constantly though she doesn't ever make love to me. Sure she doesn't crap on the floor anymore but it is still difficult to form a spiritual relationship with her. Friggen dog!

I need a hug.

such is life...