Some years ago, i was on Crosswalk, a Christian message board, and i posted a question on why love just isnt enough. I'd like post some reponses that stood out. I copied those responsed to a wordpad document and kept it ever since. Here are 3 responses, they are kinda long. Each paragraph is a differant response.
"I believe even if you can't work a professional or fulltime job, you can still be mature enough for marriage. That is not the end all, be all of being a husband. You may find a wife who earns plenty and doesn't really care if you can earn as much as she does. But human love, no matter how great, is never enough. Loving God and a Godly love for your spouse is always enough because God will help you take care of the rest of it, as He sees fit, if you are following Him. "
"You can say you truely love but when you truely love, you lay your life down for the one you love. Part of laying down your life is doing whatever becomes necessary to support the relationship. You have to eat, have shelter and have whatever other necessities we need to survive. These things are the unspoken expressions of love that are essential to the relationship. You may feel the feelings of love, but I feel the feelings of love for a lot of things I cannot have because of whatever limitations I have in my life to pay for them. Living is not free and we do not have the moral right to presume upon the labor of others to meet our needs. Having a relationship is, in a sense, a luxury. If you have no way to make an equitable contribution then you may have to forget the experience of that kind of relationship. As far as finding a proof text in the Bible, you can't always find an exact scripture to nail it for you.If you cannot care for yourself for a valid reason then you would certainly not have the emotional or physical resources to contribute to a relationship with someone else."
"Love is not enough for marriage. You also have to have wisdom. You can love someone dearly, passionately and unselfishly yet wisdom may tell you that someone is not the right one for marriage. Many Christians truly love someone who is not a Christian. Yet, it would be contrary to God's word to marry them. Love will not make them equally yoked. An individual may truly love another individual but if one wants children and the other wants none, love is not going to give them the same desire. You can truly love someone and still not be mature enough or capable of handling the emotional and social demands of a marital relationship. In fact, sometimes true love demands that we recognize that the one we love is not equal to the challenges of marriage. Marriage takes more than love. It takes equal partnership, commitment, like-mindedness and forgiveness and a lot of hard work.I find it interesting that so many who are stating that love is enough usually follow that statement up with an "if". The moment an "if" is added then love is not enough. There needs to be a qualifier."