Okay, the threads in D&R are slacking today, so allow me to present a new topic. It's tricky, so bear with me.


You had a relationship with a particular nationality, not race, a nationality, and maybe it's not first, but second or third or fourth generation. This relationship failed, and you are very depressed or angry, or hurt over the breakup.

For example, you're a male and you have had a 3 year relationship with an Italian woman, you know everything about her, her family, her culture, her beliefs, her temper, you lived with her, you may have married her, and it tragically comes to an end after 3 years. She breaks up with you. Would you ever date AND seek a relationship another Italian woman? This is an example.

Would you pursue a relationship with that nationality but a different person, again? Do we have a mindset about what certain nationalities have in the way of personalities, and how they coexist with us in a relationship? Or do you write off that nationality because of how hurt you were by that breakup?

I am interested in individuals, not their nationality.

I like to date Polish women, so I always feel smarter than I really am.

To quote a famous president. "Let me be perfectly clear." You have no hangups or prejudices about an ethnicity. You had a longterm relationship with this person, so everything was great, then it all went wrong and you broke up with them, or they broke up with you, would you do it again? Different person but same nationality? Do you have a preconcieved notion especially after a long term relationship about what that nationality is personality-wise?

And not dating, but a relationship, as in several or indefinite number of dates, move-in, or marriage?

Hehe, I get ya.

It's called being prejudiced. You're making a pre-judgement about someone, based on your own past experiences.

I would do my best to keep an open mind and not hold it against the next one.

But I really do like dating Polish women.

Okay, then the follow up would be, you fell in love with this woman named Olga, and she was hot and very attractive, you got married, and everything was great, then she strayed and cheated on you, you got divorced, and she took half your money in the settlement. Would you pursue a relationship with another Polish woman? A fair question.

My first wife was Polish and she was a hell alot smarter than me. Now I'm depressed.

I wouldn't automatically disqualify her, ( a new love interest) just because she was Polish.

Of course I would consider dating in that nationality again. Nationality or culture have nothing to do with the person involved.

No, it would not stop me from pursuing a relationship with another person of the same nationality.

LewisW123 is right.
Prejudice is prejudice.

Pssssst.
I don't think Olga is Italian.

I would and have.one rotten apple doesn't spoil the whole bunch.

I've never really given that more than a fleeting thought.

Taking your example, it WAS an Italian who basically destroyed me (same person, more than once) -- but would I hesitate to get involved with another Italian? No, because they're not all the same.

What happened to me, what I missed seeing (willfully or otherwise, before it was too late) in her, were characteristics of her as a person -- not of a whole nationality.

if you are truly open to life you learn from your experiences .......NOT hold grudges because of them

Funny.....

Noooo, Olga was the first Polish woman's name I could come up with. Maybe her name was Helga or Wilma, I don't know! Anyhow, in my case, yes I'm opening up, here. I was with an Aussie, I'll never pursue a relationship with an Aussie again. But then again, that's my preference.

I used to know a mixed girl (half black, half white) and she warned me never to get involved with a white man because of how they treated her.

Ahhh.
That explains it.
An Aussie.
Did she try to throw .. something of yours on the barB?

Actually no, but she did steal half of my stuff when she moved out. That accent was so cute at the beginning, but I eventually either got used to it or tired of it. She also became very agressive, and had an angry personality, she became full of herself, and said "Aussies do what we want, f**k all." Kept wanting to move back there, in the end I said, "Fine, Go!" God bless America.