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I'm a ****in' phoney.
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I'm always talkin to myself on here anyway--------------
But its all good I gotta lot of stuff worked out----------- me myself and I 
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Edited by
Delysid
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Thu 01/21/10 06:00 PM
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I dont talk to anyone on here, even my so called friends that are on my list..has anybody had any meaningful conversation, a lot of fakes on here and other sites I'm on..nobody can keep it real in these things any more.. smh sad sad I've found it prudent to not have any expectations of "reality" at first. Over time, when you get to know someone online, if you're paying attention and know how to gently manipulate conversations, you will discover how much of what you're seeing in the other person is actual, and what is just puffery, put up for show. Then you can decide based on this information just how much you'll have to do with said individual, and on what level. I think virtually anyone who's going into a site like this (or any other) and specifically seeking either a casual sexual "hook up" or an intimate relationship is going to end up disappointed. Why? Because those sorts of connections between people seem to work most fluidly when they occur with pure spontaneity, which means LACK OF PRE-SPECIFIED INTENT to get a particular result. When pre-specified intent is part of the picture, it becomes incumbent upon each partner to "measure up" to the other's pre-specified desires. That tends to inspire people to act like something they're not. What works is when people meet via some other different set of circumstances that aren't "dating specific", and happen to converse together at which time they realise they're having a good time together because they "click", and are comfortable with one another. Then things go from there. Another reason this tends to work better is because sometimes if you meet the right person, it might actually change your intent. You might feel like you actually want a closer relationship with someone you encounter, but there you are with the profile that identifies your intent as "casual sex" or "just friends". Does this make sense? |
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14 posts, hundreds of real folks and you can't find one person you can relate to? Check out the common denominator and figure out what it is that he does that keeps him solitary. wow you can post a link? An when you come back in hours,it just ...goes away>>>WOW Amazing who works? I seen it? 
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Edited by
Edy_ca
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Thu 01/21/10 06:14 PM
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i've only been here about a month longer than you and look at how many posts i have under my belt (not that it's a status, but perhaps a small measure of me trying to interact with these freaks on here), and that's only in the forums, i talk to ppl in pm all the time, i get to know them, we laugh we cry, i even grab my boob on their behalf from time to time...
don't leave it up other ppl to approach you, make yourself visible, approachable, share your thoughts and yourself, you i bet you $ you will make friends here like i did.
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14 posts, hundreds of real folks and you can't find one person you can relate to? Check out the common denominator and figure out what it is that he does that keeps him solitary. I seen the link.an i didn't report the pocket pusher you linked? IT is amazing, Just how did it just go away???  An this thread remains.Makes me Wonder
I got friends in th places? |
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I dont talk to anyone on here, even my so called friends that are on my list..has anybody had any meaningful conversation, a lot of fakes on here and other sites I'm on..nobody can keep it real in these things any more.. smh sad sad I've found it prudent to not have any expectations of "reality" at first. Over time, when you get to know someone online, if you're paying attention and know how to gently manipulate conversations, you will discover how much of what you're seeing in the other person is actual, and what is just puffery, put up for show. Then you can decide based on this information just how much you'll have to do with said individual, and on what level. I think virtually anyone who's going into a site like this (or any other) and specifically seeking either a casual sexual "hook up" or an intimate relationship is going to end up disappointed. Why? Because those sorts of connections between people seem to work most fluidly when they occur with pure spontaneity, which means LACK OF PRE-SPECIFIED INTENT to get a particular result. When pre-specified intent is part of the picture, it becomes incumbent upon each partner to "measure up" to the other's pre-specified desires. That tends to inspire people to act like something they're not. What works is when people meet via some other different set of circumstances that aren't "dating specific", and happen to converse together at which time they realise they're having a good time together because they "click", and are comfortable with one another. Then things go from there. Another reason this tends to work better is because sometimes if you meet the right person, it might actually change your intent. You might feel like you actually want a closer relationship with someone you encounter, but there you are with the profile that identifies your intent as "casual sex" or "just friends". Does this make sense? Talk to Lex,? Both seem to speak in the same form? |
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14 posts, hundreds of real folks and you can't find one person you can relate to? Check out the common denominator and figure out what it is that he does that keeps him solitary. I seen the link.an i didn't report the pocket pusher you linked? IT is amazing, Just how did it just go away??? An this thread remains.Makes me Wonder
I got friends in th places? It's all cool. I pushed the line and the line pushed back. But, I didn't shoot the sheriff! 
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Thu 01/21/10 07:23 PM
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I chat with most of my friends on my list -- I won't add anyone that I haven't already spoken with on the forums.
Also, I met my boyfriend on Mingle. 
Yes, there are fakes but if you use common sense, and YOU actually inspire conversation by genuinely showing an interst -- then you will have success too. A true conversation doesn't include, "how's the wearther", "can I see you naked" or "what are you up to tonight." 
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i dont talk to anyone on here even my so called frineds that are on my list..has anybody had any meaningful conversation, a lot of fakes on here and other sites im on..nobody can keep it real in these things any more.. smh sad sad
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It's sounds like alot of bashing going on in here. Instead try and spark up an topic that maybe he'll feel abliged to join in. Like.................hmmmmmmmm..........let's seeee.............. Art. Always on of my favorites topics to talk about. I think it almost the only topic i talk about, as i am one myself. I sculp, Mime, paint, play music, sing, write, and anything else i can get my greedy little hands on. What about anyone else?? What are some things you all love to do................(art)? If you wish, post in the Art forum!
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
  
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
Wouldn't that be cool if they really had voice chat on here? |
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
Wouldn't that be cool if they really had voice chat on here? I know right! I am totally screwed. Awww man....this will totally effect my mojo.  
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
YES!! or I will hurt you!!!!!  
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
Wouldn't that be cool if they really had voice chat on here? I know right! I am totally screwed. Awww man....this will totally effect my mojo.
Here's ya' a fresh new bag o' mojo. 
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
YES!! or I will hurt you!!!!!
You would hurt the Kool Aid man???? How dare you!!!!! He is so peaceful loving. 
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Goof, I have learned you watch FOXnews, but do you drink the Kool-Aid?
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I'm supposed to talk to people on here?
YES!! or I will hurt you!!!!!
You would hurt the Kool Aid man???? How dare you!!!!! He is so peaceful loving.
One phrase: Jim Jones and Guyana
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