Isn't it interesting how shallow some people can be? People get rejected because someone doesn't like their hairstyle, but when they color it or get a new haircut, suddenly they are attractive, it's the same person. They don't like the shirt you're wearing, yet tomorrow you wear a different one, and you become more desirable. You don't have a mustache if you're a guy, but you grow one in 2 weeks and suddenly you see a change in how people talk to you. Or you don't wear shades, but you go buy some Oakleys or Maui Jims and you're Mr. or Miss Cool. It's the same person, only the wrapper has changed. Shouldn't we look a little deeper than someone's physical appearance?

If people are making decisions based on hair or clothes, screw them, you're better off without them.

Yeah, preferences really suck a$$ don't they?

If you think appearances change things. Wait till you have a few more dollars in your pocket.

Physical appearance is the first thing people see...it always has been and it always will be...will you get noticed by someone passing you in a store because of your personality??? I think not

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For me, I am too fat and don't look like a model...Therefore, people judge me

I think you're adorable.

Awwwww, you are too

Thanks.

Yes you should look deeper but initialliy it is the physical that attracts someone...besides that you can generally tell something about the person depending on what they wear


I've always been attracted the the girls that came into the college classroom in PJ's and their hair a mess....in the morning. To me it says they are confident enough to do so and don't really care...now if I see the same person dressed the same way at night going out to a resteraunt I see lazy....

Designer clothes all the time-expensive taste and require too much maintenance...


many other examples too...but those are just some that stick out to me

Well you have a point but what can you do about those ears??

Pointy ears are sexy

i've always wondered why people expect others to date someone to whom they are not attracted?

i'd not look twice at a guy with ZZ Top facial hair; it just doesn't float my boat. however, if that same guy shaved/trimmed it up, i just might find him attractive.

of course, he doesn't have to do that to get MY interest; i'm sure there's someone who finds him good looking as he is.

the way a guy looks is quite important to me. however, if there's not a connection in other ways, how handsome he is won't matter.

You must be UGLY.....

It's weird

I'm thinking it might be the Spock haircut with the blue shirt. It's too much all at once. Try wearing some plaids.

Live long and prosper.

We are attracted to appearance and style first (mostly not all the time).

How can we know a person's personality or integrity BEFORE we meet or chat with them?

I’m not afraid to say that I like guys who have a certain style. Sock with sandals, jean shorts up to the nipples with a shirt tucked in, or tennis shoes with jeans are not styles I’m attracted to.

Since I can meet wonderful men of all types then why not date the guys who have a similar style to me or a style that is sexy (to me). Skin, Famous Stars and Straps -- rocker boys!



On a "not so" direct point: when someone is comfortable in their own skin -- they have style. They wear their style (clothes, hair, make up, etc) rather than the style wearing them.

A great example is Jon Gosslin and his Ed Hardy trip. Ed Hardy is Hollywood rock star fashion that looks good on guys that pull the image off (and it's their image). Jon looked like a pudgy, nerdy guy going through his midlife crisis.

In contract, Johnny Depp can wear anything edgy because that IS his style.

I digress

All of these theories fly right out the window when we meet someone with whom we connect. Whether it's appearance first then personality or meeting someone as a 'friend' and then growing to love their style -- it all evens out in the end.

I think someone comfortable in their own skin is sexy.

You look great from where I'm sitting