How do you explain to your children that daddy is with someone new and
starting a new family. Though he won't pay child support or take time to
see them. But instead is moving to a different state to be with his new
family. I'm just so frusterated. My kids are only 5 and 2. My daughter
really doesn't know her dad because I kicked him out when she was only a
few months old but my son misses him a lot. Now he is expecting another
child with a woman who is still married to someone else and wants me to
tell our current children they will have a new little sister. Ugh!

Well, What makes him think he has the right to tell you what to do? I
don't think you should trash him even though he deserves it, but it
would hurt your son to hear such things. In my opinion he needs to tell
his son not you.

No I would never trash him in front of my kids or to them. But I know
it'll hurt them eventually that he doesn't see them but is starting a
new family.

Right, but do you agree that it's not your job to tell them?

I don't know what to tell them. My son is angry at him and never wants
to talk to him when I call him. My daughter is just too little to
understand.

maybe yer could just say

i can't read his mind
that is something he will have to tell ya

but when he asks why he left do you tell him you kicked him out
and why you did so


just a thought

I'm not going to explain to my children that their father was a
alcoholic abusive and negleting man.

Wow hun, Your son is deeply hurt and it sounds like he needs some kind
of outlet. If he continues on this way it could be very detrimental to
his spirit, causing huge issues down the road. I am a survivor of a
father that killed himself when i was very young. Even though i didn't
know anything about it when it happened and it took years for my Mom to
tell me about it,to this day there is an empty spot, that actually
another man could have filled. He wouldn't have had to have been a step
father either. Is there anyone that might be able to spend time with him
that you trust?

I have a bf who is a great father to his own son and is very good with
my kids.

good for you

that is something he should do when they are older

great!! is he having a positive affect on your children? If so, I'd tell
your ex to blow and if he wants his kids to know what he's up to, then
get off his cowardly ass and tell him himself.

yep

lol thx guys

HHHHmmm it is always hard to explain but... from what i seen and heard
you have a b/f so you explain it that as you have someone daddy does as
well -- as for moving well it can be explained that daddy's g/f lives
somewhere else --- as for answering other questions they will always
come up -- it is sometimes the burdoned of the custodial parent to
explain things as for talling about the <new> child that is his
department --- they will figure things out as they get older -- i knew
someone that when the father promised gifts she would go out and get
them it hurt them in the long run as they really thought it was from him
and eventually they figured it out -- mostly because he stopped seeing
them -- as they get older it will get easier ---