Topic: Lost weight but...
JustSayin's photo
Mon 12/07/09 11:00 PM
Edited by JustSayin on Mon 12/07/09 11:30 PM
I have lost 60lb since Feb. of 09 (at a stand still since Oct) anyway, 60lbs actually made a difference in clothing size went from a 22 jeans to 16 but I am finding that when I view myself in a mirror I don't see any difference (don't get me wrong I have self esteem and know my worth and all) just wondering, I feel like my mind hasn't caught up with what I look like (make any sense?) I also notice I take a lot of pictures of myself (lol, not to be vain) but because it's hard to believe that's me in the pictures...I have a full body pix and even that one I don't believe although I took it... (trick camera)ok no, No trick camera... I didn't "try" and lose weight I just began to love me and live, but my point is has anyone ever felt this way...after losing weight. I have told my friends at some point recently do I look "that size" pointing to someone whom I thought was the same size as me, they are like ahhh, in December of last year.(08). I just don't get why I can't see me... as others do?


Down2earthdebbie's photo
Mon 12/07/09 11:07 PM
WoW In 2005 I was a size 18 then I got into a 14 in 2006! Now in 2009 I am a size 12 & who would know that I could do that? whoa The woman in my family are ALL overweight in a very BAD way it seems the older they get the worse? slaphead So I am trying to change that because I wanna be diffferent. It feels great to be smaller at a normal size & I get attention EVERYWHERE like this morning getting GAS this GUy said, Hi to me & started telling me how good I looked when another guy who knows me came up & gave me a HUG! :thumbsup:

JustSayin's photo
Mon 12/07/09 11:46 PM
Yeah, I hadn't see some of my friends in about 7mo due to taking care of a cousin, who was sick and I couldn't get out with my friends, to the PowWows (yes, I'm NDN) but, when I finally seen them they didn't recognize me until I spoke these are friends I've know for years, mind you... It was a good feeling.. I have made a "big" change to everyone, and I know I have... I just can't see it, visually can't see it... I don't know if it's because I didn't try and maybe in a sense my mind wasn't expecting it... Heck, I have no idea, just kinda frustrates me a bit, especially when I go shopping I always go for the 22's and they fall off.. Then I remember ahh 16's duh... same for my tops, no way would that fit me it's too small, ahh it fits.... I'm so confused...laugh

It's strange how I just can't see it, and I try to... weird as that sounds... I do hope to lose at least 30 more lb... but I won't force it as I found when I try to lose, I gain..ohwell

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Mon 12/07/09 11:59 PM

Yeah, I hadn't see some of my friends in about 7mo due to taking care of a cousin, who was sick and I couldn't get out with my friends, to the PowWows (yes, I'm NDN) but, when I finally seen them they didn't recognize me until I spoke these are friends I've know for years, mind you... It was a good feeling.. I have made a "big" change to everyone, and I know I have... I just can't see it, visually can't see it... I don't know if it's because I didn't try and maybe in a sense my mind wasn't expecting it... Heck, I have no idea, just kinda frustrates me a bit, especially when I go shopping I always go for the 22's and they fall off.. Then I remember ahh 16's duh... same for my tops, no way would that fit me it's too small, ahh it fits.... I'm so confused...laugh

It's strange how I just can't see it, and I try to... weird as that sounds... I do hope to lose at least 30 more lb... but I won't force it as I found when I try to lose, I gain..ohwell
Ok well I had to learn to eat right I studided it for like months..........became certified as a NUTRITIONST & FITNESS TRAINER..........I would say your eating habits are the most important! Most people really have no clue how BAD some foods are. I lost alot of weight by stress which is really bad, but since I didn't want to gain it back I joined a GYM where I became really close with some of the trainers. My advice would be get a trainer until you learn what you need to to keep the weight off! Remember it takes alot of time & dedication! Don't ever give up!

JustSayin's photo
Tue 12/08/09 01:19 AM
Thanks, ahhh yeah.....


Ahh, has anyone who has lost a significant portion of weight had a problem visualizing the weight loss? Literally Speaking?

Just wondering...

papersmile's photo
Tue 12/08/09 04:03 AM
Edited by papersmile on Tue 12/08/09 04:04 AM
maybe because you lost all that weight over the course of a year so it's been gradual and that's why you can visualize it?

i bet if you met up with some old friends who haven't seen you in awhile, they'd be saying 'wow! WOW!!'.

or try posting before and after photos, for yourself and/or for others. i'm sure if you did a comparison based on that alone, you'd be more aware.


JustSayin's photo
Tue 12/08/09 04:36 AM
Edited by JustSayin on Tue 12/08/09 04:37 AM
Thanks maybe the whole before and after pic's would help, me visualize and step into reality sort a speak... Yes, my friends who I hadn't seen in about 7mo didn't recognize me... but I do like your before and after idea... Thanks so much for that..flowerforyou

Scott3895's photo
Tue 12/08/09 08:59 AM
It's body dysmorphia. I'm 5-8" 220lbs with very low body fat. People always tell me I'm huge, yet I always feel small. I have complimented a lot of bbers in my gym on their body and the first thing most of them tell me is "Bro, you are twice my size". I KNOW EXACTLY how you feel! The mirror, the camera, and our minds all play games on us!

JustSayin's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:13 AM
Omg, it has a name.... I'm not going crazy... lol... ok, not going crazy in that sense at least..

But, for real... Thanks for letting me know.... I am not the only one who felt this way... I was starting to wonder... you know...

Hugs...

RoamingOrator's photo
Tue 12/08/09 09:24 AM
Twice in my life I've been over 300 lbs. Twice now I've taken off most of that (down to 215 at this mornings weigh in) and I can tell you one thing. I'm still just as fat today as I ever was.


I've had friends bring over pictures of me with a much rounder face and bigger waist, but when I look in the mirror, I still see the person in the old photos, not the one in recent ones.

I think it's a mental thing for someone who is trying to immprove their physical appearance. We all know what we want to see in the mirror, and as long as we don't see our "ideal" we see ourselves at our worst. To me, it's just more incentive to keep exercising and get down to the size I want (185 lbs). I hope, when I get to where I'm going, the fat man in the mirror will disappear.

That or maybe I'll get rid of these flourescent bulbs and go back to incandescent, they don't point out as many flaws. laugh