Help me out here fellow Mingle Members, especially those who I love like wux and krupa and many more. I met someone who I wanted to befriend but her feelings just started to come on too strong. She's new to the dating online stuff and its her first.
I know for the guys, they're probably questioning, "Well is she attractive?" Yes she is. She's pretty but the only problem is, she's very unaware of the dangers of online dating. I think its completely crazy! She does have her standards for a guy but when I told her that I'm going through a divorce, she told me that its ok. Its cool enough that she end up telling me that my pics are scary, seem very unapproachable and I did that on purpose. I told her that I have many flaws. The girl who has never been with any guy and I asked her "Have you talked to any other guys? Maybe they would meet your standards or make you happy." I did everything in my will and power to make her to accept me as a friend, only! After I end up showing her pics (they're not on my profile) of my younger years of how much I smiled back then...she end up asking me this..."I want to marry you and love you for who you are?", again, I told her that I have many ugly flaws. I know that I'm not perfect but come on, what good looking woman like her would want a guy who no longer has a high self esteem? Its madness I tell you! I mean come on, I'm holding a job where I work only if I was called in, I'm going to school to get my MCSE certification, looking for a second job, lost a house and living with my battle buddy, several months behind bills, don't even have a stable income, and ummm...I'm fat? LOL! Dude, I'm not even that attractive either! LOL! My fear is that, as a good friend, I just don't want her to make the same mistake as I did a decade ago and I had to learn a hard lesson on that when it comes to relationships. Even when she learns of my past experiences of what I've did and what wrong I've done, it still doesn't stop her from coming on too strong. This girl is being blinded by love and I've warned her over like I don't know how many times not to allow it to happen. This NUTS! The girl is too precious to be hurt emotionally in anyway whatsoever, but knowing who I really am, can do that to her. I will love her as a friend but nothing more than that. So help me out here ya'll, what should I do next? I'm so confused...

You are taking the whole online dating and friendship thing way too seriously. I doubt you ar actually friends or anything more.

All that stuff does not matter! We all have ups & downs in LIFE! You just need to focus on YOUR LIFE right now & don't yrt to get involved with anyone until you can feel bettet about yourself! Also she does NOT even know you WHY on earth would you to even think about Marriage? It will take time but you must come first right now just take it one day at a time!

ummm....she's already wanting to marry you and you haven't dipped your wick in it yet?

yeah a little too serious! you have no idea of her skeletons in her closet either???? If she likes you and you dont want to hurt her dont hurt her. your past cant hurt her unless you bring into the present. Just relax and if you really like her just become a better man and make it work????

Thanks everyone.

First of all, you are beating yourself up way too much dude. You do realize that over half the people in the US are in financial strains? So your problem their is not a new one. Hell, I sympathize with you on that one cause I am not living life like I did three years ago. But that will change for me soon. Anyways, so you are going through this personal test right now, and she comes along and throws a wrench into it. Happens. Boy, it always seems to happen when you least expect it huh?

Anyways, I have seen people like her alot of sites like Mingle. They meet someone online, get that initial attraction, talk, feel connected, and then think it is love. All you need to do is just explain that she jumped the gun way too fast, and that she needs to slow it down. I mean, that is really all you can do man.

Some people are desperate, it happens. If you don't want to be bothered with her drama, just stop talking to her. It's just that simple.

I agree.

You wanna sober up the situation.......

exchange CURRENT butt naked pix.

I am serious.

If you are both still cow eyed after looking grim reality in the eye....go for it.

No one ever hit a home run who never stepped up to the plate.

I have had awesome relationships that came from spur of the moment, dive right the hell in, no guts no glory situations.

I have also talked myself out of relationships by over analyzing.

If you dig the gal...take the chance.

Before anyone scoffs......let em think back to ex's that in retrospect they KNEW were just gonna end up being a heart ache but, they gave it a shot anyway.......cause every last one of us have had em.