My soon to be husband is going to have a set of twins from his ex, now she has already terminated her rights to the children, papers are signed and filed and everything. It was already agreed that I'm going to adopt them shortly after they are born in December. Now what I'm wondering is does anyone have advice on adopting children? Oh course I'm gonna love them as if I had birthed them myself, and I already love them even though they aren't born yet. Anything I should know before the adoption though?

Wow!!! you have quite the full plate don't you? 20 years old- going to be a newly wed, and the adoptive mother of twin infants. are you sure you are ready for all of that at once? tall order my friend-

newborns are alot of work- you are a strong woman

as for the adoption- just make sure you have all the info- medical, ethnic background- all of it!!! write all info down- be honest with them from the beginning- tell them about their "beginning" -other than that......

Just love them and enjoy your life

As far as I know, the birth mother can't sign anything until after the child is born. There is a waiting period because she may choose to change her mind. You need a lawyer, as it isn't a simple as you may think. Have you read the adoption laws in your state? There are a lot of stipulations you must abide by before a judge will grant an adoption.

As far as I knew, she did that, she even took her lawyer with her because she wants nothing to do with them. But I'm moving up to Illinos before they are born to get settled in. I suppose that you can do that up there.

I am so ready for this. I'm so excited. I'm also very experienced with children. since I was 9, I've been talking care of my sisters kids and she has 4 of them

Found this info,


When Consent Can Be Executed
Statute: 750 ILCS 50/9

* Mother: Under Illinois law, the earliest point at which a mother may sign a Surrender or Consent to adoption is 72 hours after the birth of the baby. Once signed, Surrenders and Consents for adoption are final and irrevocable. Once the Surrender or Consent has been signed, a birth mother may not change her mind. A mother has the right to refuse to sign a Surrender or Consent for adoption (right up until the last moment before signing) if she has any hesitation or doubt about her decision to place her child for adoption.

I too would get a lawyer - make it much easier for you. Good luck and best wishes