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I am just wondering if we really get hurt by others, or do we hurt ourselves. Meaning do we allow people into our lives and expect things that they cannot or will not provide, and then are hurt by our own expectations. What is your opinion? So, with that, we can only THINK someone to be who they tell us they are, and go on to knowing them and that better,, Its THEN,,,we learn something that might be negative to us about them.... BUT if WE don't attempt to KNOW THEM,,,, We would feel WE didn't at least TRY. THEY, in RETURN,,,are doing the same... ITS WHEN,,,,one of YOU, FEELS ,,,,,,,THAT NEGATIVE in them I can Except,,,,thinking THEY can CHANGE a BIT,wink, When WE,,,try and elude our selves with our WANTS being GREATER than CAN HAPPEN? WE USE TIME and OUR SELVES and in a sense THEM,,,through the process..... But see here's the switch to flip...... HOW THE HELL DO WE KNOW THAT GOING IN?????lol And when in thinking, as we walk this walk,,,we always tend to TRY and allow that US,,,,to pull through,,because we ALL pretty much believe in how strong and capable WE OUR!!!! wink.. But, we as humans,,,,are all creatures of our own habits,,and I have learned one thing in this life for sure, PEOPLE CANNOT CHANGE,,,,WHO THEY OUR!!!!!!! I probably lost everyone on the first sentence,,,,,lol,lol |
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Absolutely not! I blame everyone else
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water seeks its own level..
a little intospection might help 
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We make decisions based on self, which later place us ins position to be hurt, so our troubles we think, are of our own making.
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WOW! LOVE IT
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I am just wondering if we really get hurt by others, or do we hurt ourselves. Meaning do we allow people into our lives and expect things that they cannot or will not provide, and then are hurt by our own expectations. What is your opinion? my ex wife stabbed me in the azz in that case I was hurt by her and not myself |
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 WOW...love it This reminds me of an old song. The Snake On her way to work one morning Down the path along side the lake A tender hearted woman saw a poor half frozen snake His pretty colored skin had been all frosted with the dew "Poor thing," she cried, "I'll take you in and I'll take care of you" "Take me in tender woman Take me in, for heaven's sake Take me in, tender woman," sighed the snake She wrapped him all cozy in a comforter of silk And laid him by her fireside with some honey and some milk She hurried home from work that night and soon as she arrived She found that pretty snake she'd taken to had bee revived "Take me in, tender woman Take me in, for heaven's sake Take me in, tender woman," sighed the snake She clutched him to her bosom, "You're so beautiful," she cried "But if I hadn't brought you in by now you might have died" She stroked his pretty skin again and kissed and held him tight Instead of saying thanks, the snake gave her a vicious bite "Take me in, tender woman Take me in, for heaven's sake Take me in, tender woman," sighed the snake "I saved you," cried the woman "And you've bitten me, but why? You know your bite is poisonous and now I'm going to die" "Oh shut up, silly woman," said the reptile with a grin "You knew damn well I was a snake before you took me in "Take me in, tender woman Take me in, for heaven's sake Take me in, tender woman," sighed the snake |
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Edited by
Wannatalkk
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Mon 11/30/09 04:02 PM
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I am just wondering if we really get hurt by others, or do we hurt ourselves. Meaning do we allow people into our lives and expect things that they cannot or will not provide, and then are hurt by our own expectations. What is your opinion? Yeah you are absolutely right. Those who expect that someone will "provide" for them simply live in the world of silly dreams. The sooner they understand that the better. Real relationships, or love if you will is about giving, not taking. In other words it is about excepting people as they are not rejecting them based on your own selfish and immature thinking. |
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I am just wondering if we really get hurt by others, or do we hurt ourselves. Meaning do we allow people into our lives and expect things that they cannot or will not provide, and then are hurt by our own expectations. What is your opinion? I had someone tell me they could provide something that was important to me in a relationship, they were able to provide this but failed to do so. My expectations were clearly correct in this case so I was hurt by another person. This is just one scenario, I do believe people may have expectations that are unrealistic and hurt themselves. |
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I am just wondering if we really get hurt by others, or do we hurt ourselves. Meaning do we allow people into our lives and expect things that they cannot or will not provide, and then are hurt by our own expectations. What is your opinion? my ex wife stabbed me in the azz in that case I was hurt by her and not myself  Haha...I sure hope you wouldn't stab your self in the butt
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I am just wondering if we really get hurt by others, or do we hurt ourselves. Meaning do we allow people into our lives and expect things that they cannot or will not provide, and then are hurt by our own expectations. What is your opinion? I think this goes along with my belief that there are no real players only ourselves not paying attention. If we are talking of the hurts of the heart then I absolutely think we do most of that ourselves. I believe this because somewhere we stop listening to our minds, along with our hearts, and our gut. We turn everything off but our hearts. When that happens we are introuble since the heart can't reason it can only feel. I know the times I have been really hurt by someone I allowed into my inner personal space, really didn't mean to hurt me they were being true to who they were. I am the one that chose not to see who they were. |
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