Have you lived long enough to know what you really need or want????

I've dated some here, some......and that means,NOT MANY,wink,OK.

But to be told that THEIR looking for a long term,,,and all that goes with it,,,,,,,,,THEN,,,,,,after a long,,,well,,,after a period of time,,say two three months.
They then,,,have a change of heart,,,?

Me personally,,,I feel used and cheap,lol. really....

I think THEY just wanted a roll in the hay and wanted ME to believe they were sincere?
Whats your thoughts?

Oh, I hear ya loud and clear. I can't say much more than that.

I use to only know what I didn't want...Now I know exactly what I want and need..

The beautiful thing about chemistry is it is either there or it isn't, it can't be forced...

I hear ya,, but do YOU think that WOMEN lie to get men in bed? I mean really,,,,,,,if they do,,,WHY.....?

WE are ALWAYS horny and wanting to,,,but lies deface HER?
And she could just be honest and still maybe get all THAT,w/o the big falsehoods,,,,,,,,,RIGHT?
IS IT to save FACE,,,or PRIDE?

I don't lie to get men in bed..I have never had a problem just getting sex if that was all I wanted...never had to lie to get layed.. I am interested in much more than just sex...so I guess I'm not understanding...
you feel like you are being used for sex?

NO,,NOT presently,,,dahhhhhh,lol
But I do feel that I had a couple lie to get me in their pants, or them into mine,wink,lol as to say they were sincerely looking for a commetted relationship and long term,,,BUT they showed me,,,,NO,,,,JUST SOME SEX and SEE-YA??
So,,,I was like WHAT? HUH? WAS I THAT BAD,lol,lol,no really,
it was like they couldn't just TELL ME THAT,,,they had to bleed it into a heart felt life meaning venture that I NOW, don't believe they want or ever wanted to settle-down them selves???YET...

I have a girl friend whose 57 and she jumps into bed immediately with a guy- always has. She's lonely and wants sooo badly to get married again (4th)and brings up the subject almost immediately after the 2nd or 3rd time seeing each other. The men drag her around, using her until they get tired of the married thing (I get blow by blow- different man- same story)and leave.

I do know she's been horny and picked men up strictly for that- and it isn't fair but she doesn't make the connection between men doing it to her as her doing it to them.(And I have tried warning her of the dangers of doing this, beleive me, but to no avail)
Personally, I feel would really want to get to know someone first before that jump- as it means alot to me and means commitment. I've learned that it doesn't to alot of people and thats okay- its their life. Maybe am old fashioned, but maybe you could explain where you're coming from first, that you are looking for commitmnet and see if she runs. Like said, I realize most people think the 3rd date is the charm...but I'd wait unti the 7th or tenth before making that decision. If he's not going anywhere, then it can wait. If he is...he'll be long gone before we got to those numbers , which would be fine with me.
And maybe after a few months, like you said, it wasn't working for them as it was you. Don't feel bad...you're just a romantic. Theres hope for us yet

But have you NOTICED,,,few have spoken here,


THEY know their BADDDDDDDDDDDDddddddddddddddddddddd,,,lol


But really, women don't like to be as HONEST as us guys because SOME GUYS,,,will see their truth as a BAD THING,,,,so men,,,have kind-of taught ladies to NOT be open a bout their sleeping habits,,,,me,,,I am to old to be proud,,,its just life and we ALL HAVE HAD SLEEP-OVERS,wink...

My 3 sons are from immaculate conception...I know, I know, it's a fricking miracle..

MARY....................YOU HAD Two more?????????lol



I just bet you fibbed a bit huh,,,wink,lol

Im, maybe the answer to this situation, is don't have sex with anyone till they marry you. Then a person couldn't fell used, they would know eachother better & have spent alot of time talking about what they want. Would be a tough thing to do.

As for myself, I can't be used; unless I allow it. I think we all need to look at our own actions, FIRST. Nothing can happen, UNLESS you allow it to.

SOME,,,,,,,, THINGS,,,,,, just,,
kind-of,,,, become,,,,, a,,,,a,,,, More,Noticeable.

But I do see what your saying,,,but then,,in THAT perspective,,,,
If A HER,lol and I dated for a year and THEN planned a marriage
THEN married,,,,,,,,to find out she would want to maybe go out on me as I wasn't fully all she had antisapated...or she just could never be sexually happy with one same man?
THEN,,,,,THAT would REALLY be depressing and hurtful,,,and sad.

I just feel like a PERSON HAST to experience the OTHER in their love making before either one could feel confident in their heart to really FEEL all the emotions each carry only at THAT release
of passion,,,shows,wink..
BUT,,,look whos writting this post,wink,lol ME.....

This is really more or less ME saying that
DAMN it ya women, if you want sex and sex only then SAY THAT...A heart is a very BIG issue to PLAY with,wink...
THERE,,,,,,I feel better now,,,,lol

Terry,
I can't answer for any of the other women........but I would tell a man that all I want is friendship and maybe a little roll in the hay.LOL...It's not a hard thing to do...just as if I'm not attracted to a man...I tell him....hey this won't work..Saves a lot of unhappy times....

I know exactly what I want. Never hesitate to communicate.

I WISH EVERYONE had that style of excellence.

PROFOUNDLY EXPRESSED my dear..........wink,lol Thank you.

YES,,but can you or do you,,,tell that dude up front first?
Wink,,lol and what do you,,,,,,,,,,want??????

Just kidding,,you don't have to answer that one,,,wink,

Yes I am "up-front" and honest answering all questions I am asked. If I am asked out, I want to meet someone in an open public casual environment. In a relaxed atmosphere a couple can talk, ask questions and decide if there will be a second date.

You're welcome!