Exactly!!!:

as a single mom the price of a harness is more affordable than a double stroller. so i don't see the problem in using a harness but that is just how i feel. but we all see things in are own way.

also i think if they are used the right way then they are great unlike the child i seen that the parent tied the kid to rope out in there yeard to play now that is wrong.

if the child loves her harness, it's not demeaning or cruel. many children want to wear their cool teddy bears...

if you have a deaf child that cannot hear you if she's distracted, it's a way to keep her safe. if you have an autistic child...it's a way to keep her safe.

if you have a child whom will literally dislocate if you tug on their hand or if they stumble...it's safer with a harness.

as long as the child doesn't mind and feels loved...well, that's what's important.

I never had to use one with Adam. I've always wondered about them though

was? Our parenting styles may differ as greatly as you say they do (and I am not saying they don't), but I would have to rebuke you for sure and say you weren't a great mom, but ARE a great mom! You did not stop being a great mom just because they grew up and moved out, right?

We may not agree on what's the best or shouldn't be done, but we both DO agree that we would do what we consider right and needed in order for our children to grow up and be productive members of society, conscious of others, and caring, as well as hard working and respectful of others.

I first heard about them around 7 or 8 years ago, and saw my first one in 2002 on my way to Indiana from Hawaii. A lady was sitting in the airport with her child, reading a magazine while waiting for her flight. her child was harnassed up, and where was the handle of the harnass? Tied to the back of her seat!

I know this is only one bad example, and I agree the idea behind the harness is a good IDEA, but it is not something I would ever use, and really frown on the idea of others, though as long as the parent is still paying attention to the child, and taking care with the child, I respect others choices in using them.

Every child is different, why judge what someone else is doing as it's not your business?

I agree... it is one of those things the parent chooses, I'm not convinced it is harmful to a child..if it keeps them safe. Little ones wander off, are taken and murdered everyday in this country. I had 8 years between my first 2 boys, I had an older one to help...perhaps if all 3 would have been closer in age I would have tried them..

Exactly. People rush to judge others parenting skills, and every child is different and needs to be treated differently. Who knows if the child has special needs, ya know? Every situation is different. And if there is a kidnapped child, the mother will be judged for NOT keeping a better eye on the child. So in the publics eye its a lose, lose situation.