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| Topic: Losing Belief in Good Guys | |
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I'm sorry!!
Don't whatever you do..... GIVE UP or become BITTER!! We've all been through the crap and it's hard I know Smile and forge ahead!!! 
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"sigh" Guys like this give us other guys a bad rep. I mean, my rep is bad enough as it is. I have the goofy/dork/nerd thing going on. I have no abs and I aint rich. Now, steroids can give me abs of steel, but I don't want a shorter "member". But, I truck along, hoping some hot chick with cash will want me.
  In all seriousness though, there are nice guys out there. And, I can find them for you...if the price is right.
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I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. yep you're right. there are no good guys left in the world. all that's left is us jerks. and what's even worse for you, us jerks tend to avoid women who grossly overgeneralize about such crap as the notion that there are no good guys left in the world so you're left not only without a good guy but any guy at all. this is the very definition of baggage and you're carrying it along with you in your search for a relationship. baggage means blaming others for your lack of success in relationships. you only have control over your behavior, your demeanor and your outlook on the dating scene. you have no control whatsoever over the behavior of a few men who have disapointed you. you simply made some bad choices. learn from the mistakes that you made, change how you behave when making future choices and take responsibility for your success or failure. or just continue to fail. again, the choice is yours. |
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JrBogie has a point. If you talk yourself into that all is out there is bums you are sure not to be dissappointed. Whineing about frogs just gets on the Prince's nerves.
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that's why i won't ever invest a lot of emotions into any further internet relationships, be them friendly or romantic, until a few things have been shown, constantly and consistently, over time. one of them is cam chats. i want to be sure that the person with whom i am speaking is accurately portrayed by the photos they've posted. it isn't only from an attraction point of view, but it allows their honestly (or lack of) to show. i want an address. i usually send some little token just to be sure that they've given me a location where they aren't afraid to receive some mail. i then ask for verification of what they got, just to be sure the address wasn't fictitious. i'd like a telephone number. i'd like to be sure that he is available during odd and varied times during the day and/or weekend. the more accessible he is, probably the more available he is as well. i want a meeting after some rapport has been built. i'd like to meet their friends, their family, and/or their co-workers as soon as is feasible. if they don't shy away from that, i can be relatively assured that they are not married and i am not the other woman. none of the above guarantees an honest and upfront person. at some point, common sense and gut feeling must come into play but at least this is a start. These comments, are some of the best answers I have seen for quite a while. I would like to add.... 1. Assume nothing, know things for a fact, or DO NOT believe them. 2. Expect an attempt to decieve you. 3. Keep your emotions in check, until you have met, IN PERSON, several times & you have proof of their true past. I learned these things from personal experience & follow them constantly. Thoughts of "Old Sage" |
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Not all men suck, just like not all women suck. Keep looking, and maybe think about the kind of men you're going after, could be a pattern you need to break. Good luck. I agree 
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