depends on what type of words they are using,what they are saying, with the other person they are chatting/gaming/or whatever with

I agree. Ironically, I used to think it didn't matter, but now I know it would bother the heck out of me if I was dating a guy and found out he was talking to other women.

I met my honey here on Mingle, and we both still have our profiles, although we have agreed to keep our relationship off the boards, I will say this....he talks to whom ever he likes, as well, as I do. I keep my conversations and flirting within the limits that are comfortable with him as well as myself. If it gets to far, I always am honest and tell the "other man" I am taken.
I expect the same from my significant other and he hasn't failed me yet, nor do I expect him too.

I do NOT have relationships with jealous men, nor am I the jealous type, but it sounds to me like you have a problem with the trust issue....be it yours or his.

Trust is the biggest factor in ALL relationships, which has a HUGE deal to do with HONESTY!!!!
If you don't have it then there is no real love, loyalty or friendship.

I hope you find what your heart is looking for....

Maybe you should date more, get to know people, and up the chances with a higher ratio of people you check out, and enter relationships less.

If the profile was set to show that both were single even though they're both in a relationship, then yes that would be a problem. However, if both state in their profiles that they're taken, problem averted.

I wouldn't be getting off Mingle just because I got engaged. My profile would be changed to reflect it, but I have friends here that I chat with who I prefer to keep in touch with.

Ditto with Mysoace and Facebook. I update my status and tell the pushy ones to bugger off or block them. The boyfriend knows what's going on, and if he dared try and say something, the relationship would likely be over. I'm not going to hide it from him, but I'm not going to get rid of my friends, male, female, straight or gay, married or single just because he has an issue.

If we were in a serious relationship, I would hope that would be enough.
But if she couldn't handle a life without this fantasy world. Then I hope she has a good laptop and a wifi card, because she would be using it from somewhere else.

Trust has nothing to do with it..
Love and mutual respect do!!

Fantasy world? You mean the reason I get up everyday is pretend?
To answer the question: If you're taken you should not want to be on here. Go make your Honey a sammich and go to bed!

hi tuty./././. how are u da ./././ wanna add me ???????? when u ll come 2 online ././

I measure it by what I would think is acceptable in face to face life. I'm ok with my partner having friends, male or female. If my partner wants to talk with another woman as a friend, I have no problem. If he were to walk up to her and say, "Hey hottie, want to tap this??", then I wouldn't be ok with it. IMO doing it online is no different.

I'd get married again if a woman would make me a samich!!!---38 years and I had to make my own. You'd make a samich for your guy?---I like that!!

i think what you or your girlfiend say to others (specialy if it comes out in an intamate way) is a matter of respect and consideration to each others feelings..talkin and chatting are fine but personaly i wouldnt/dont like the idea of my girl meeting guys on chat and start emailing them. to me thats just wrong..i wouldnt do it

Right!

I point blank have always said to my boyfriends over the years that I would castrate them if I thought they actually cheated on me. And believe me, it's not that hard to do.

I can handle flirting, within reason, and have no issues with him talking to women. The groups of people I hang with are kind of flirty and goofy like that, so I'm used to it.

Well I don't think I said anything about ditching my friends. I have a few people I have gone beyond chat buddies on line. Writing, calling, actually visiting with which is more than a e-pal. But being on a dating site, even if it is a mixed site as nice as Mingle is, I think, disrespectful once you are in a committed relationship. Being engaged is a really serious deal to me. Once I have my choice I don't want anyone bird dogging around. Don't need it. For that matter not all that wild about when I am single just see it as a necessary eveil.

I guess it's the type of person you or they are. I didn't think I bird-dogged to begin with, and I know Mike was on Mingle for all of a week. But I keep him filled in with who I'm talking to, which he is okay with. It falls under the whole communication thing, which is even more important since he's in the military and going to be gone for a while. If he can't trust me online, then he probably wouldn't trust me while he's gone. Ditto for me, if I can't trust him if he's online, then likely I couldn't trust him when he's gone. It's a bad way to go into a relationship.

i don't even like the flirting part of it. i'd be embarassed if my boyfriend were flirting with girls on the boards here and i were reading it. and if he were doing it in private email, then i'd be jealous and hurt.

likewise, i'd not do it to him. besides, he IS the only guy i actually want to flirt with anyway.

Nods. I know where you are there. My mom feels the same way when dad flirts with gals at the registers and such. She doesn't care for it and I usuall here about it and they've been together 37 yrs.