Good luck w/ this hon. It's difficult. I've been raising my two kids solo for almost 5 years. If you want to share stories & support one another. Mail me offline. Take care.

Thanks so much I would love to email you if you like you can contact me on here and send a mail through.I tried to email you but it wouldn't let me through.Take Care Cgirl777

I think you made a wise decision!!

Good luck!

If this guy blew you off then you are starting to see the handwriting on the wall. Caving when your options are tough is only going to mean you are putting off the problem. And making a child the authority in your home and his life. I feel really sorry for your kid. The suggestion of talking to a recruiter and getting a mentor for your child is a good idea but the person who really needs a mentor is you. Maybe you will get lucky and the recruiter can match you up with a strong Marine spouse to mentor you. I will pray for you. If you think life is hard now you don't get it in check You have not seen nothing yet.

How long did you know this man when you introduced him to your children?

My child has met none of them. I don't want my child bonding with a person and then that person is no longer in their life. That would not be healthy for my child. I have to be in a serious relationship before I'll allow my child to meet them.

I was 12 when my mom met the man she is still with today. I made life rough, but I was going through hell myself after 4 years of rape by the same man. My mom and I fought alot, there were lots of time I wouldn't even speak to her. I spent most of my time in my room and only came out for food. I never tried to run her life or at least I didn't think I was. It took a long time for me to realize what I was doing and finally accept that I needed help.

My mom did have a standing rule with any man she dated. Her kids ALWAYS came first. She would wait a reasonable amount of time before introducing him to us. I can't say I was always the nicest kid but at the time I hated men. Her boyfriend and I now have a good relationship, not great, but good.

My mom was also a single mother for many years before meeting this guy. She always said "How can i be happy in a relationship if I can't be happy being single." So she made sure that she was happy.

You'll never be happy with someone if you can't be ok without someone.

Don't give up on it, but don't try to force it. When it is the right time you'll know it.

To answer you thought here I'm not caving right now just taking sometime off to get myself back on track and come back better then ever.Also I didn't cave into my son when got home he found out who the boss was real quick and I put my foot down hard and I mean hard.he now knows who is running this house and my life.I made him realize he is the child and i'm the adult and if he couldn't handle it hit the road then.I have gained control back and it's my rules or the highway.

I had known him for several months, They don't meet my kids like in the first month or so i wait at least five before they meet them because i want to know if their for real.I can say this my kids are smart and they have learned to accept yes men will come and go in my life.They will be friends with a guy but they want let him in close to their heart till they know for sure.

That sounds reasonable to me. I'm a single parent. I know that it it's not easy. I do wish you the best.

It is your decision to have some one new in your life, not your son's. If he doesn't want some one new in his life, keep him out of it. Hire a babysitter.

Thanks Winx your sweet I'm just going to take some time off and enjoy life and my friends and then let life take it's course and who knows.If I find someone who is up for the challenge lol then we will roll with it so to speak.

Update,I'm feeling alot better and getting my life in order and I have the power back haha.Ding Ding round one I may have been knocked down but I'm coming back better then ever got the gloves on and ready to rock and roll and ready for any challenge that comes my way.Anyone ready for round two ding ding lol.You guys have fun this week and enjoy.Smiling now and the attitude is different. Got the Mojo back lol haha.

Understanding your flight .... Godspeed

He is feeling a little bit rebelious because he is probably angry cuz his father has left, he is probably afraid to let someone else in his life, for the fear this person may leave to. Sit down with your 15 yr old and talk about why he is pushing this guy away.

im a single parent new in town ill be willing to take a chance with u dont ever give up on men i no theres a good lady out there somewhere for me